The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Monday and Tuesday were good days for me as far as telling my ex and my current husbands what I thought. I was proud of me. First Monday night I let my ex know that I was very angry and hurt by the way he was treating me. I told him I did not appreciate being lied to and manipulated. I told him there was not anything I could do about his lying but that I didn't like it and I had hoped we could act like adults and actually discuss things for the good of our children instead causing strife for them. I wasn't mean, just blunt. He had absolutely nothing to say, all he did was stare at me. Then I turned around and left--not angry, not sad, but proud of me for telling him what I thought and felt.
Tuesday I was doing a favor for my husband, that wasn't working out. so I called him to see how he wanted me to handle it. He cussed at me, then I tried again to do what he wanted, again it didn't work out so the next time I called he treated me better, but I was still upset about how he treated me to begin with. Later that evening I told him I didn't appreciate how he had treated me, I was after all trying to do him a favor--faxing something for him--I told him if that was how he was going to handle things he could take care of all that stuff himself next time. He apologized. Don't know if he actually meant it, but I don't care again just proud of me for telling how I felt!! Maybe I'll get the hang of taking care of myself and telling them how I feel.
Hope everyone is doing o.k. today. It's wild here--field day--oh the joys of school!!
Recovery (of self) in action. Building bridges, not walls, loving confrontation, assertive action, positive change, change, change, negotiating responsibility and setting guidelines etc etc. Don't you just love this program. And I didn't see the word fear once. Stuff I can learn from and thanks sooooo much. (((((hugs)))))