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I want to skip over the 2 steps where I need to make amends. But could it be the other person needs to come to me to make amends? I am NOT ready to face my brother. Maybe before his trial end of July but who knows. Can I skip these steps, do the later steps and come back to these?
The steps are laid out in a very purposeful manner. If you skip a step, you are cheating yourself. No half steps will get you anywhere either. You have to work each step completely until you move on to the next step. I know it's not easy, but that is all part of the growth. You have to let go of the resentment and have to take responsibilty for your part. You can't demand an amends from anyone. Even if they should make an amends, it isn't sincere if they don't do it on their own. Just let go of the resentments and put it into God's hands. Their wrong doings will then be between them and their Higher Power. Resentment is like a poison that YOU take and you expect another person to die from it. The program will work if you work it.
