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She said the restraining order against Douglas has been lifted! Actually when I was speaking to her he showed up at her condo so we ended the conversation. He spent last Wed-Mon in jail (again). His bail was $2400 which my mother happened to take to court with her Mon morn. Tomorrow he goes to district court for his pretrial My mother's sounding much better. My brothers mad at me for calling the cops. She brought a letter to the judge today saying she wants him off his charges, out of the house though. Doug has been ordered to go to AA 4x's week, an outpatient CAB program, and random drug checks.
Barbara, I'm glad to hear your mother is getting better. Hopefully, this will be what your brother needs to get better too. HP may be guiding. Take care of yourself!
A few years ago, when I called the cops on my a, I didn't get any support either - I got criticism and doubts within minutes from my brother and the a's mother. I know how that feels and it's not a good feeling. Just when you need support and the person with the bad behavior isn't held accountable and is rewarded with excuses and bail out money.
It turned out that it was one of the best things I did, and I wish I had done it sooner. He began getting the help he needed and going to AA from then on.
Last week I dialed 911 on my brother, I changed my mind the second I dialed it, but they had to come out anyway. I won't tolerate bad/illegal behavior from anyone. I support you in your decision to protect yourself, even though you aren't getting it from your family.
