The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
And right now some of my critical plans include what to do for Christmas because Christmas is incredibly hard for me. I will not be spending Christmas 2006 with the A. I am through being abandoned.
I hear you. I am already thinking of Christmas 2006. I too am tired of being abandoned but I think that I abandon myself at times. Christmas is hard for me because it is my anniversary.
In support,
Nancy
PS I just went online and ordered a recovery book and audio for myself.
I'm kind of chuckling about this in a way, but only because of my experience.
I remember my first Christmas after coming into the program. From about Thanksgiving on, I was absolutely convinced that I was going to have a horrible Christmas, as my kids were going to be at their dad's and I was going to be home alone. So for 6 weeks, I was miserable projecting and expecting what a horrible Christmas it was going to be.
Christmas came. The kids went to dad's. I went to a meeting. At the meeting, I met another woman who was spending the day alone and we went back to her house and played the piano (badly) and had basically a nice time.
I learned an important lesson that day. That I had wasted 6 weeks in misery that could have been just fine over something that never even happened. For me, it brought home the importance of keeping it in today.
I spent Holidays alone, even before I seperated from my A, it just wasn't worth it. I have a friend who I can always go visit because she can't leave home because of a ventiulator dependent son.
Josey
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Julianne - It's best to move on. You cannot look back in anger in life. It's too short
