The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
The writer of this passage says we should try to concentrate on our similarities, not our differences. If we realize why we are all here, we need never feel alone. Many came to the rooms feeling we were set apart by our circumstances, leading to fear, shame, and embarrassment. We may have stayed distant from others. But by reaching out to members with the same details, we could find help. We are all unique but program brings us into a circle of hope that is greater than our individual differences. We can try to cherish our collective strength.
I clearly recall how alone and ashamed I used to feel. I distanced from my family and most of my friends. I couldn't bear to tell anyone what I was going through, how desperate I felt, and I didn't know how to get off the merry-go-round. My spouse was drinking and driving, without a thought given to anyone else that could be harmed. My marriage was a sinking ship. So alanon was my last ditch attempt for help. I had tried everything else. And of course, if you are here reading this, you know how the story goes-focus on me, learn about the disease, establish boundaries, and keep in mind I am not drinking and driving. I am a separate human being and found others in all stages of what I was going through. What a breath of fresh air. I could tell my story. People understood. No one shamed or blamed me. I often sign off with "grateful member." I mean that from the bottom of my heart. Can't imagine where I would be had I not gotten involved with alanon.
Good Morning. I can't thank MIP enough for saving my life and putting me back together. Before MIP, I often told myself if someone were to tell me my story, I would say they are full of it. Members' shares validated my experience and encouraged me to get into the solution. MIP led to F2F which led to a sponsor. I have regular contact with my mom, reconnected with an old friend and am active at the Y. And most importantly, I have my HP who is creative in providing solutions and reminds me daily I am not alone. (((MIP)))
