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I think it was 2017 since I was last here. At that time my son was my qualifier. He since has married, had a child and quit alcohol and drugs cold turkey totally. Without a program, I am not sure how he is doing emotionally and spiritually and not sure if he has been affected by "arrested development". He no longer communicates with me and lives out of state. Unfortunately I have not been a part of my grandsons life and it breaks my heart.
Enter next son, who is addicted to the internet, no alcohol or drugs, a kind and gentle person but never the less addicted. I put down my Alanon program, but it has always been with me.
And now It must become part of my daily life once more. I am once again thankful for this program, and all the wisdom and people that come as part of it. This is lifelong....Thankyou
Welcome back LinSC! I watch some of my loved ones behave in self-destructive ways with many kinds of addictions, just as you said. Before alanon, it overwhelmed and crippled me as I tried to help, change, instruct, and force solutions. Of course I learned the hard way, that none of that was helpful, to them, but most of all, to me. I accept that I need alanon on a daily basis to take care of myself the best of I can, and with my loved ones, I try to Live and let live, and Let go and let God. There is a ton of wisdom here, along with people who understand. Keep coming back. Lyne
Welcome back, LinSC! I am also sorry that you have to seek out MIP again, but glad that you are attending to you. I have found that Al-Anon has helped me far beyond my qualifier. I use it in my daily life.
It works when we "work it!"
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"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Good to see you LinSC....we always leave the porch light on. My belief (take what you like, leave the rest) is one is either born with addictive tendencies or not. If so, anything can become an addiction, obsession, etc. Some are certainly more deadly/damaging than others yet for the person with the disease, it has the same effect.
I'm glad that you knew where to come to get the support for what's going on. My oldest lives in the same state, a city away and we are estranged. I could write a novel on the dysfunction of addiction in families yet opt instead to just work on me, my serenity, my sanity and my joy. They have a 3rd child that I've never met...
I hear your pain and am sorry. It's not easy for sure, yet feels less painful if I hold out hope for tomorrow and live in today. (((Hugs))) - welcome back!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
