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The reading for Monday, 8/2, examines Live and Let Live. The writer says if we could put all the slogans together, wed be pretty close to perfection as spiritual human beings.
With Live and Let Live, it is suggested to live life fully, richly, happily, and fulfill our destiny with joy from what we do. Then we are asked to acknowledge the right of others to live as they want to, without criticism or judgement from us. We are encouraged to rule out contempt, resentment, and not to feel other peoples actions are intentional injuries to us.
Reminder: The more I think about living, and letting others live, the more I will learn from it. I will try to make it my yardstick in everything I do, and especially in relating to the people in my life.
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Wow, what a summary of Live and Let Live. I can say that at times I am able to put this slogan into action in a sincere way. And there are other times that I simply cannot rise to the occasion. The writer says the four words of this slogan are a philosophy of life. I agree, and its taken me years already to be able to do this some of the time! You know what they say, one foot in front of the other. I will keep trying.ODAT.
Good Morning All. Thank you Lyne for your service/ESH. You and DM2021 nailed it-one foot in front of the other. Today, I took action in order to get motivated. Laundry has kept me busy and away from judging, analyzing, and irritated that I do all the work around here while others relax watching the Olympics, baseball or anything but contribute to the upkeep of our home. It dawned on me to just live for me...I love a clean house. By focusing on what keeps me satisfied, I cared less about what someone else is doing or not doing. I am in place of pain (?), becoming more aware of the multitude of choices I made that have left me feeling spiritually dead lately. Separately, the irksome things are nothings, but combined they are draining. And on another front, I am realizing I mistook isolation for solitude-I miss my alone time but at a breaking point regarding "Just the two of us"...anyways, thanks for listening. My sponsor on vacation until the 15th and I miss her... Thank you HP for Al-Anon and MIP. Have a wonderful day.
Thank you Lyne for the Monday Daily and starting my week off right!
"We are encouraged to rule out contempt, resentment, and not to feel other peoples actions are intentional injuries to us."
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Lyne Thank you for your service and your share and oh yeah, live and let live I was tested big time on it last week when I called my handyman and his jealous wife got on the phone, his phone, and told me to stop harassing her husband? That I was using multiple phones? And just real crazy stuff and then threaten to call the police on me and I told her go ahead please do. Well I was telling her sons best friend who is like a son to me and he said oh yeah shes. Bat Fuzz crazy and that he avoids her. Well that is what Im doing. Every now and then I see her in her car going here and there and I just ignore her and let it go. Its sad to lose a good handyman but I am not going to cause him trouble by trying to get him to work for me. It is what it is and some people you just have to keep at distance and though I cannot love or like this woman I have chosen never to try and hurt her just live and let live stay in my lane and keep her out of it by just not engaging, not doing anything to fan the flames. There are people out there who are just toxic and aggressive and when her own son refuses to speak to her that says volumes. But again I just want to live and let live and she does not exist
Happy Monday MIP. Thank you Lyne for your service and the daily. Thank you all for your shares & ESH. I saw this last night and almost shared....yet, felt a bit tired so opted to get to bed early instead. I was up bright and early to golf and it was a lovely and great way to start my day. Our heatwave finally broke so I even started today with a jacket on - just lovely.
I have a friend who's been battling cancer for 10+ years off/on. Her goal was to see her only child graduate from High School. Mission accomplished - her battle has been rough, painful, horrible, etc. to watch - I can not imagine the strength & courage to experience it. This weekend, her bowel perforated and between her ravaged body and limited medical staff (Covid is consuming all resources in all hospitals), there will be no surgery.
She shared with me privately almost 3 years ago that she would have quit fighting already if not for her son. I don't know what it is about people that tell another to 'keep fighting' or 'you got this' but it was draining on her. We have one gal in our text group who seems stuck in Junior High mode and struggles with reality and ... you guessed it - she's the one who says these things often/always and makes it all about her.
Hospice is coming in. I don't know how long she will have nor does she. What I was able to share with her because of this program was my complete admiration for her desire, willingness and strength to battle this for so, so long. I was able to share that I will be of service in any manner needed/wanted. I've already started cooking her husband's favorite meal and will probably road trip up today/tomorrow.
This program has allowed me to truly live and let live. Death has always been hard for me because I made it about me. As with most things, it's really not about me at all. This will be my third loss of a young person (50's) and while I don't fully understand why they have to leave this earthly place, I can better accept, thanks to recovery.
As I am typing this, I received a text message that a dear friend I volunteer with has had a stroke and is not doing well at all. If I am not around much, please know I am dealing with 'life' and trying to be of service. Live and let live - for me, just for today, trust God, clean house and help others. (((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thank you Debb - I am clearly not in my 'right mind' or perhaps I am just operating in a steady state of insanity...in recently lost young people, I completely forgot about the murder of my brother-in-law Memorial Day weekend....*sigh*
My High School friend is home with hospice support. They believe 4-8 weeks as a guess. I'm taking meals up on Thursday. I will gladly take any prayers you can spare for those suffering...
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
(((((((IamHere))))))))))). Prayers rising for you and brother-in-laws family and also your friend. Im so sorry all of this is hitting you in such short intervals. Sending you peace and comfort energy. Dont know much else what to say except that you have people who care here and we are interested if you need to come on here and scream And vent, we are here listening
