The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
the forum, daily reflection for July 28th is about
Sometimes Change is necessary
Despite living turbulent, chaotic lives, we still don't like change. So we find our security in familiar places, rather then reach out for the unknown that is ahead of us
This is not real security, because even the familiar changes. We usually resist change because we fear trying something new
If we find that fear of change is causing us to endure situations that are unsatisfactory, we need to adjust our attitude towards it
Yes, we often view change as risky, but it may be the only and necessary route for improvement
We can start by simply accepting the idea that change IS sometimes necessary. After that, we can turn to our Higher power to guide us to the new situations that are right for us
Today I may find myself fearing change. I'll remind myself that nothing ever stays the same, and that only change can bring the true good I'm always seeking.
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I absolutely hated/despised CHANGE because back in the day, it meant more chaos, despair, loss, trauma, the old "familiar" suffering was better than the suffering I did not know/was familiar with, so I stayed in that chaotic family of origin, watching mom go on a crazy drunk, getting arrested for driving drunk, etc., and my brothers starting up the "using and abusing" substances, even I drank to escape the craziness...
then I realized albeit slowly that the only way I was going to break the cycle of insanity was to CHANGE...ME...From the inside out, THEN came the changes that had to be done to nearly everyway I did things, first things first, i made a list of what I needed to change first and so on...
Tho I still don't like change, it still scares me, I am more "OK" with it now because I can stop and breathe..I can ask for help..I can use my steps and slogans in my self talk to keep me level and flexible..trusting in my inner Higher Power has been key..just MAKING myself trust that I am in alignment with what is positive so life IS going to be OK..it IS OK, not gonna be , but IS OK
I looked this up and it is by Al-anon family groups, hope it is CAL, it looked to be because of the Al-anon family groups claiming it
-- Edited by mamalioness on Wednesday 28th of July 2021 09:55:23 PM
This program has given me the option and ability to change when I need or want to. After years of rigidity, and futile attempt of having some control, I am able to move on. Grateful member.
Me too. I was so rigid and so monolithic in my thinking. This program really helped me become flexible enough where yeah I still dont like change but if it is whats upon me, I just try to go with the flow and ride with the tide and hope for the best
here I lose my business and I lose my unemployment benefits but you know my higher power is keeping me going in the most beautiful ways and so I I am learning that all the positive energy I put out in the way of prayer and just putting out love and light into the universe, I am provided for. I am OK. And this is the biggest and the worst ever change that I can remember but I just truly in my heart of hearts think that my HP has something good for me and while I wait , I am OK
-- Edited by mamalioness on Thursday 29th of July 2021 12:28:22 PM
Greetings MIP family. Thank you Rose for the post/share & Lyne as well. I can relate to resisting and fearing change. For me, I think it was because I had more of a glass half empty outlook towards life, especially change. I rarely embraced that change, which is consistent in life could be good until I worked on my attitude and outlook in recovery.
I remain grateful daily for all who came before me and were willing to be patient with me and show me how to just let go and let God...this program has served me really, really well in all my affairs.
Happy Thursday all....I'm volunteering @ the golf course - the hottest day of the year here so far....it's brutal but grateful for a breeze!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
