attempted my ist f2f mtg - Al-Anon Family Group

regrets · Member

attempted my ist f2f mtg

jrtjosey · ~*Service Worker*~

look for open AA meetings, or surrounding towns, the drive is good "me" time.

Josey

Belongtome · Senior Member

Hi...on the f2f meetings, keep trying for the nearest place you can find.

In the meantime, go online and download some reading material. I spend a lot of time clicking on the names here, then viewer profile, and reading their posts started from the first to the current time. So many times, it makes me feel not so alone, and I learn what others have done, and the comments they have received.

The most important thing I have learned is to concentrate on me...and my recovery. Not what my A did, but how I reacted, and how I'm slowly learning to find my own happiness in life, regardless of what he may do.

It's rough, but you don't have to go through this alone. Thank you again for sharing with us.

rtexas · ~*Service Worker*~

(((regrets)))

Sorry that one didn't work out, but don't give up. Bet your city/state has a Alcohol/Drug Abuse facility close by. They normally have information on local programs.

Until then, don't be discouraged... you have us.

One thing I have seen in the literature is if you are unsure of what to do ... do nothing. If you don't feel ready to have a "meeting" to discuss the fate of your marriage... dont!

The thing we typically lose first in our relationships with active A's is our abilty to say NO... that's part of our disease. I struggle with that daily!

Take care of you!

megan · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi and welcome to MIP and your recovery.

It is great that you are ready to attend a face to face meeting.

I tried 5 times before I found one that was active. Then they gave me a booklet with other meetings in them and most of those meetings seem to be uptodate.

We have meetings here is the chatroom at 9am and 9pm.

Go ahead and use the messgaeboard as much as you need to, we will listen.

You have started down the road to your recovery, congratulations and keep coming back

aunitedway · ~*Service Worker*~

HI, fellow alanoner! Would be happy to help you to find a local meeting place!

please private message me (to do this click on my name with right mouse and then click on send private message) ., then type the message with your city,state and zip code or ust the state and zip code. Might be good to include the location you have that is no longer a good one too, this way we wont do that again. I will see what I can come up with for you.(bigsmile) Not to worry we can do this.!

In the mean time....I would like to suggest that you check out the chat room HERE and once on the chat room page you will see at the top in the middle the chat room page is the *meeting schedule (for the chat room) THAT can help to get you going in the right direction. Winderful people, and a Great Place, your safe there to share your feelings and get some good es&h ( Experience,Strength and Hope.)

KEEP LOOKING UP! (((BiGHUG)))

lin0606 · ~*Service Worker*~

You've got lots of good advice here, so I'll go at it from another angle.

One thing we say in alanon is "What would you be doing if he didn't exist?" (OK, if he REALLY didn't exist, you wouldn't have those five kids clinging to your skirts, or that mountain of debt.....but you know what we mean.) If your life were the same as it is now, but the MESS that comes with A was not there, what would you be doing right now? Then, go do it. From little stuff like taking the kids to the park, to big things like getting your degree - work towards what a sane life for you looks like. As much as possible, "act as if..." your life were your own, and not controlled by another's disease. And, bit by bit, it will become that way.

regrets · Member

Thanks lino6o6, I have located other meetings in the area, so thats not a problem.

regrets

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