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Today is my birthday! Normally I don't get excited over them. After 43 years, why? But this year is different.
Last year my hubby was in a serious relapse to the point where he went back to detox the day after my birthday. Now he is a chronic relapser, and doesn't work his program like he should. Yesterday things were a bit tense in the morning. He consumed a pint of vodka in the morning. Slept it off, but I was angry about it. I did a very nonalanon thing, and threw the rest out of the large bottle I came across. When he woke up, I told him about. He wasn't happy about it, but thanked me . He decided that we needed some space, so I made him take his meds with him, and then he caught the local bus. Wasn't sure where he was going, or what he was going to do. But I had to Let Go and Let God. I came home from work at 10pm and he wasn't home. Okay I wasn't upset, a bit concerned, but not upset. At least I could get a good night's sleep. He didn't come home until 9am this morning.
Well Happy Birthday to me: He was with a sponsor! Holy Cow! After all this time trying to convince him that he needed one here, and it couldn't be his Dad or myself, he decided to go to this guy. Thank goodness! Now I realize that this is progress, not perfection. Perfection from an A yeah right. But he came home sober, and he couldn't stop talking about this guy. I haven't heard him this excited in ages.
Now as for me today, I did my morning meeting with all of you. What better way to start my special day, then I got my haircut, went to the bookstore, had coffee and cheesecake and bought a silly book. Now I'm sorry Cjo I know you told me no laundry today, but I don't mind doing it and it's got to be done. Hubby is cooking dinner and I might even do my night meeting tonight.
It feels so different and good from last year. I was bound and determined that no matter what happened today with hubby I was going to make the best of it. I am! If recovery means anything, it means being good to ourselves despite all the chaos this disease can bring. I may be 43 today, but I feel like a kid.
Thanks for all your well wishes in the chat room. I brought in my birthday with you at midnight (way past my bedtime) and I love being able to share it with all of you!
Love and blessings to you all!
Live strong, Karilynn
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY Karilynn! And many happy, healthy returns of this special day. Birthdays, no matter how old or young we are, are such important days. Our birthday is part of what defines us. I often walk up to total strangers and say, "Today is my birthday!!" One or two look at me strangely, but most return a pleasant greeting and a smile. I'm smiling at ya! Diva
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Hi Kari ((()) Have a great birthday. That was a lovely surprise to get. You had no expectations and look what happened. Hope you, Piper and your husband have a lovely birthday dinner. Luv Leo xxx
Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday dear Kariiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii, Happy Birthday to you ~ and many more !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So happy for your wonderful day, you deserve it.
love and live strong
Maria
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If I am not for me, who will be? If I am only for myself, then who am I? If not now, when?
Dear Kari, I was in chat last night to share your birthday and cake. So nice to read your upbeat post on your special day. Many happy returns! You go girl :)
My birthday is coming up on May 9th. I am looking forward to it for once. I would not be there if it were not for al-anon. Thank you for reminding me it is up to me how my birthday goes. I have spent so many devastated about what the A did not do for me.
. He decided that we needed some space, so I made him take his meds with him, and then he caught the local bus. Wasn't sure where he was going, or what he was going to do. But I had to Let Go and Let God. I came home from work at 10pm and he wasn't home. Okay I wasn't upset, a bit concerned, but not upset. At least I could get a good night's sleep. He didn't come home until 9am this morning.
If recovery means anything, it means being good to ourselves despite all the chaos this disease can bring. I may be 43 today, but I feel like a kid.
I hope you have a great day! Sounds like a good one so far.
