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Lyne


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The author for Monday, 3/1, tries to explain to us what humility is, and how confusing the concept actually is.  It often brings us to resistance, we ask if we are we supposed to be submissive, and it shows us it is not intended for us to be slaves to our destructive way of life.

True humility prepares us for Gods will for us.  We learn that our self-will contributed to our distress.  True humility gives us dignity and grace, and enables us to take intelligent spiritual action to solve our problems.  Betty taught me that humility = quietness of heart, and I believe this is in a reading in C2C.

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So I thought I knew everything about how to fix my A.  However, none of it worked.  Early on I learned in my meetings that there was no quick fix to get an A whipped into shape.  I felt so disappointed.  But this reading in my case is truemy will, my plans, my solutions, did not work and only left me in a deep emotional hole.  By opening my mind and heart to alanon, it was the only next right thing for me to do to find serenity, peace, and healing.  And so I think what Betty taught me was trueto quiet my mind and heart, to listen for HP and to program people, opened the doors that I needed.  Grateful member.



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Thank you Lyne for your service and for the daily. I am happy to see this 'early' - I gotta busy Monday, so works great for me!

I can't explain why - FOO, life, disease, other - but I had a (warped) view that humility was a negative 'thing'. Weakness, passive - I can't even describe why or from where, yet when I first heard the word humility in recovery, I thought I would become weak, passive, non-passionate - less than.

I was told to just consider humility as the act of being teachable. This 'clicked' for me and made sense in my crazy brain and not all things I've heard in recovery do/did. I don't necessarily believe that I thought I knew it all yet I do know that if I didn't know the answer, I'd set off on a rabbit-hole search for the answer/solution. I have done more research on many subjects than one human probably should and no matter what facts I find or what the research suggests, with this disease, knowledge is not power.

Humility for me is about being open to new things, experiences, teachings, etc. There is no doubt for me that I have faith beyond me today. When I arrived, I was a right-fighter and had a passion to fight for those I love with this disease to death, if needed. Being quiet, remaining open and teachable and patient with answers yet to come was all foreign to me and very uncomfortable. Yet, my previous exhaustive efforts did not fix/change/cure those I love and damaged me deeply. I opted to lean into recovery and am grateful for those who encouraged me through the discomfort, many missteps, etc.

I too am grateful for this program, those who show me a better/different way and allow me to learn, grow, fall, get up, change and keep doing it daily. Happy Monday to all - I am golfing tomorrow with some gal pals I've not seen for quite a while (pandemic and we all belong to different clubs now). I'm giddy with excitement!!! Make your day as great as you choose for it to be!

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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 
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Thank you Lyne for your service, ESH and today's reading and thank you to IAM as well! It is so appropriate

to acknowledge in today's reading what Betty would have said about humility because she was such a great

example of humility herself. I found that humility means, for me, that when I am humble I can honestly

absorb what Al-anon has to teach, as well, and most importantly I can use that quiet and silence to hear/see

my HP's guidance.



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Thank you Lyne for your service, and to all whom have shared.

Humility for me, means that I have learned and accepted that there are other ways to "Do" life. No one way is perfect. Having humility for me means that while I may like my way better, it is certainly not the only way, nor is it always the best way. I stay open to other suggestions, other possibilities.

Honest. Open. Willing.


I hope you all have a great week. Enjoy your time w/the golf gal-pals, Iamhere!! If 2020 has taught us anything, it is to value and appreciate these moments with friends and loved ones... never take them for granted!

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