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Hi Everyone, Just wanted to share a different response to an ongoing problem in my home. We have had ongoing plumbing issues with neighbors above us which I have reported to management. Landlord is an alcoholic who is progressing. I've learned to contact property caretakers for a more immediate response. The same issue occurred this morning and I felt angry and frustrated that it has not been resolved. Right now really wouldn't be the best time for me to pull up stakes and move. Also, I am considering options based on alot of factors for which I don't have clear answers at this moment. I am working today and this disrupted my work day and serenity. I heard foot traffic above me and then the leaking from my ceiling stopped. The property caretaker never came by as promised to look at my ceiling. It just doesn't matter. The damage is minimal this time and an easy fix. I'll take care of it. I no longer care to engage unless necessary. I basically pick my battles these days. My partner and I were pretty quiet much of the morning until he said that he could say something about the whole situation but isn't going to. He is equally frustrated by it. I said I felt we both needed to maybe just keep doing what we need to do during this pandemic and not give our serenity away to these things. I put some upbeat music on and shared in cleaning up the water and I washed the bath towels. I mentioned that it was a nice day out. He agreed in a pleasant tone of voice and we're moving on with our day without giving our power away. I also asked for a hug, got one and gave one. There was a time when I felt if someone was wronging me, I wasn't working my program unless I confronted them. I believed if I didn't I was sending them a message that I could be taken advantage of. Today, I know when I concern myself with how someone else sees my action or inaction that I'm making them my hp. All that matters is my own motivation and whether it reflects being true to myself. I'm good with the choice I made and working on my plan B one day at a time. and I'm just trying to keep my sanity and serenity and not engage in any drama. TT
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(((TT))) - woo-hoo, way to go! Keep doing what you're doing because it's looking good on you! My days, attitude, serenity and sanity are always much, much better when I can just avoid that chaos and drama inviting me in...
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene