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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Certainly al anon has stepped up to serve so many in asjusting to the zoom methodology. I enjoy some aspects of thaf very much. In fact I am considering doing zoom for therapy
Service is indeed something that is seen in large conferences. I did enjoy.going to large meetings with count downs and round the clock meetings. I look.forward to the time they come back
More than that I know the tremendous sea change there us in recovery. For me personally exoloring the treament of comolex ptsd has veen extremely useful. My recovery has moved forward in leaps and bounds. I sm in a far far better olace as a result. My work on learning about comolex ptsd has been supported by so many people whose knowledge, generosity and commitment to others leave me in awe
Don Quixote was a character in fiction who went out tilting at windmills. I sometimes see myself like that.
Last night i went to the meeting to the west of here. It was pouring with rain. The old-timer up the gorge there truly appreciates the support. We sort of talked 19 to the dozen about local Alanon stuff. About our sponsors. There are two younger members coming- and done was there last night.
My counterpart told me how their group had folded. At one time some AA double winners had stepped in and got the group going again. She told me how a -no cross-talk- format had made the group much more functional.
Even with two of us there I had practised no cross-talk and observed how powerful it was. Empowering.
I have seen one or two people impose it in a rigid way in the past. A strong sense of observance. In our meeting last night we chatted and laughed after our sharing. Kicked back, in other words.
The weather here has been so unseasonal. When I woke up this morning I felt grotty. So I stretched out in bed and did a step 10. A feel a lot better now, and am getting the benefit of the meeting last night.
I am looking forward to going to face tp.face meetimgs. Rigiht now there is no.chance of that until the fall
I was extremely lucky.that when i.first got into 12step programs I lived in a city where there was meetings day a d night
I am very grateful for that incredible opportunity. Of course I.also take 100% credit for my recovery
Of course as someone with complex ptsd I certainly was trggered all the time at meetings. Neverthekess I found #anchors,# for much of ny recovery
That is why it has been so helpful for me to.enbrace that codependence is indeed a defence in complex ptsd. I am beginning to.establisg ny depression is as well
Now I am so clear about what I can do about my issues there is no where to go but forward.
I.have reached a level of acceotance I never got to.before and never imagined
How glad I am to make it there
I.was slways really kinda clueless how anyone got to acceptance. After all I had a lot to acceot or so I thought
However larely I have cime to.acceot so much of the unacceotable in my life. What a true gift that js to get to that point of derachment. I think.it.os also a big testamont to making large strides in dealing with my inner critic
In these very.very hard times it is indeed extremely helpful to be hopeful, positive and crystal clear about the road ahead
No matter what happens I am so mich better at taking care kf myself. What a big gift for the New Year: acceptance.
Service work is a very important part of our program. There is a CAL book about it called "When I got busy, I got better". It can start by fixing the coffee at f2f groups and setting up the chairs, or chairing a meeting. I also was the adult sponsor for an Alateen group when I was in my first years in al-anon, I grew as much as the kids did. Service work helps us to get the focus off the alcoholic and back on us and also giving back to others in a healthy way. Other ways to do service work is by chairing a meeting or being a sponsor. I am so grateful for the opportunity in the past to be a servant of this site in the capacity of a meeting chair. i was hoping that I could get the meetings going again, but alas I have not been able to.
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I can Overcome all things through my HP who strengthens me.
A word I hear a lot, coming out of the USA. Service above self.
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