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angeleyes8462


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Hi everyone,


  As I am new to this I have been struggling the last few days. I have been talking with one of the A's in my life. In the beginning I felt like I was to cut off all contact with him. So that is what I did. But then I started praying and praying and reading the bible, I started getting closer to my HP. Something came over me a sudden change in my attitude towards him. All of the sudden I wasn't so angry with him. I felt almost a peace came over me a calm, forgiveness for things he couldn't control on his own. I think it helps that I know the disease part of him. I have explanned that I needed time for me and that we were not a couple anymore. I need to take care of me first and am starting to do so. There are positives and negatives to talking to my A. I have seen a pattern when he has been drinking and his behavior towards me now that my eyes are starting to see what my HP has been wanting to show me but I was so closed off to it I couldn't. We then started talking about the meetings he asked me if his drinking bothered me I told him "YES". I would have never have said that before. I would have just kept quiet and not mentioned it. I was very surprised that he asked me that. I asked him what if he was required because of recent incedent with the authorities if he would have to go to AA what would he do. He told me he wouldn't go to AA. The old me would have pushed and been mean about it but I just let it go and let god take over. But I know whatever the out come for my friend I know that my HP will take care of me and I will wait for my HP's will to be done.


Sometimes the waiting for the outcome takes to long. LOL. But I am still learning patience oviously and strength.


 


Angeleyes


 



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Good things really do come to those who wait! and work on themselves.


Josey



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Angeleyes, you sound so strong, and I can feel you feeling better, and more tranquil.  I hope I can reach you, and that we all reach our serenity. 

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(Angeleyes),


Good for you. Work your program girl! .


He has his own HP, and even if you can't understand it right now, he is exactly where his HP wants him to be and so are you.


Much Love,


 



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angeleyes8462


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Thanks for your responses all. But I also wanted to add that another reason I didn't talk to my A was because of other things in my life I felt need my attention more.  

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