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Husband will be picking up his drinking buddy on the way home from work Fri afternoon. They're going to a womans house who husband works with to move furniture. And then of course husband is using it as an excuse to not drive his drinking buddy back home! A husband informed me his drinking buddy will be spending Fri night at our house and husband wont be bringing him home till Sat afternoon. Will anyone please join me in a wish for good weather this Saturday so I can get out of the house?! thanks much
I am wishing with you.:) try not to worry about it too much...
my a use to do this constantly, but I ususally didnt get a warning. I would just come home to a few drunks and be up half of the night with their loud yelling over the blasting radio. one instance I asked his friends to leave... it was a work night and already past midnight, and I needed to be up by 5am. it ended with a huge fight(him pushing me down), his friends laughed in my face, and he told me if anyone needed to leave his house it was me! (not his, mine, was before we got married... it became ours, but far from his)
I ended up getting almost an hour of sleep... having to deal with a nice 11 hour day with a 3 hour class afterwards...
in any event, ill wish every day between now and then for you to have good weather this weekend... :)
Plan A could be to stay home and see how it goes. Busy yourself with something you enjoy doing and detach from the others. Or plan B could be to get yourself a nice hotel room for the night and enjoy the pool. Take off to a campground and pitch a tent for the night and enjoy the serene sounds of nature. Or even Plan C.... just kind of be in and out all day long. Go to the library, the mall, a walk through the park.... anything to just be away.
I am sorry to hear about this stressful upcoming event.
Some ideas...
Can you buy a lock for your bedroom door? And lock yourself in to have some peace and quiet? Door locks are easier to put on then they seem, the directions are all there. Don't give your husband the key. Fix your bedroom up to be a pretty retreat, flowers, clutter free, candles, etc. also, can you get some "white noise" to block out nosiy laughter and voices? Like a fan, or one of those "white noise" machines that makes soothing, low key pleasant noise to drown out disturbing noise?
I also made some wall quilts and hung them on my bedroom walls. They are decorative and give some insulation to the walls and I hear less noise from the outside.
When thigns got really bad with my AH, I would go into my room, lock the door and blast the TV as loud as I could to drown out his his screams until he gave up. It was better than listening to him.
I have a water fountain in my room, and a fishtank to add to the peaceful atmosphere.
My AH is a high functioning type who hides his addiction with all of his might, there are no drinking buddies or drinking guests, but he makes enough noise for 4 drunks with his voice, blasting TV, music, etc.
This is not a quick fix...but something you can work on little by little like I did. Part of making taking care of yourself a priority. I even got AH to buy the fountain as an anniversary gift when he was in "make up" mode, LOL. Just keep fixing up your room to be an escape...get the lock first though, that is most important.
If you can afford it a motel room is probably best, if you can't, I like the camping idea.
Hi, Barbara, My first thought was that you have time to get together a plan for yourself. Since he announced he's bringing someone home, then there is no problem with you announcing that you are going to a friend's, to a nice motel, or camping. Use your imagination! And we all hope you have a good Friday and Saturday! Blessings, mebjk
Yes I agree Barb get the focus back on your plans what you are going to do to have a nice weekend. He has already made his plans time for you to treat yourself. I really like the post about the fishtank in the room. Almost wanted to visit there myself. lol Take care. Luv Leox
Barbara, oh my God, you have my sympathy & prayers hon!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I think it's supposed to be nice weather, but dont know where you are!!! I thought mone was bad, spending the nites out in the garage drinking! Never had his A buddies over!!!! I'ld have to kill someone. lol.
