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Well today he has been calling, he is on a bing again. He is paronoid and talking nonsense. I felt bad today for him, "he needs me" was the feeling I had, maybe if when I talk to him I should be kind, like he tells I should be , instead of talking direct to him about his addiction. This discussion today re-inforces what I really know. He has to get sick and tied of being sick and tied. He actually called me, while I was writing this message. He is still talking crazy:, but I am not going to let it upset me this time. I am thankful to be able to tell someone how I feel and have people to help me stay focus.
Isn't it amazing how they change? When we let go it seems to force them to do it by themselves. They need us to be sick with them. It sound like you are taking care of yourself.
Hi , well your right about one thing He needs you alot more than u need him !!! unfortunately most of us don't know that. It is painful to watch someone we care about hit thier bottom. Some one told me instead of waiting for them to hit {thier bottom} start looking for my top. what a concept . Louise
I left my AH 23 days ago and he still calls everyday with the simplest questions. I know they are futile efforts to stay in touch, or on bad days to take it out on me. Everything that goes wrong is my fault yet, and I am out to get him. Although I have asked for nothing but the premarital property. He is upset on the balance on his credit card in his name alone. And I have the joint cards, that he just charged over 400 on gun stuff the month I moved out and he never hunted once the whole time we were together. I have said nothing about that. He overdraws the checking account, I cover it. They don't need us, they expect us to clean up after them. I have reposessed all checks and debit cards now that his check doesn't go in there anymore, I will cover no more of his expenses. He is on his own. He doesn't need me, he uses me. If I called him at work as many times a day as he calls me he would go through the roof. I don't even call, I email. I don't feel sorry for a 48 year old man that can't take care of himself yet. He is just mad because he needs my income to live in the way he was use to and he does not want to admit that he needs me( in very selfish ways). When we were together he always thought it was the other way around.
Josey
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Julianne - It's best to move on. You cannot look back in anger in life. It's too short
