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I got in the door for my lunch break right after A husband got home from work. I call him earlier today to let him know our son has a friend over and he'll be spending the night. We talked about dinner and decided to get pizza. After I walked in the door I suggested eating dinner at the pizza parlor. Of course husband wants to get it now so he can come home and drink - wont have to go back out. I should have thought quicker - let husband go get his and taken son & his friend for dinner later. They did tell husband that they are playing a game and arent ready to eat yet. Husband didnt care.
It is hard to think on the spot sometimes. I am to the point where I don't think about my A when making plans for me & the kids. Basically I let him know that I am doing something and if he wants to join in, then Fine. If not, well his loss. Example...I picked up some fried chicken from the store last night for dinner. I came home & made mashed potatoes, red skin potatoes (my kids like both & I didn't have enough regular potatos to feed all of us) and greenbeans. Then I told my husband that dinner was in the kitchen if he wanted any. Well, I knew that he didn't really care for any of it but the kids & I love it. So if he wanted it Fine, if not, then he could make a frozen pizza or something. He ended up eating a little bit. But hey, at least I wasn't put out by working around him and his wants and likes.
