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bigthoughts


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I am the child of an alcoholic, I am dating an alcoholic. I didn't know at first, it took awhile for me to realize it and now I just feel so ANGRY!! I have fallen in love with this man---a man with so many good qualities--and I am beginning to feel that I not only shouldn't be with him, I don't want to. Tonight we were supposed to spend the evening together. Instead, he had the day off, he spent the whole day getting absolutely trashed by himself then called me, shitfaced, and begged me to come over. I have had problems with his drinking before, but nothing like this. This is ridicuous right? He says to me, it has nothing to do with you, I made a choice to drink all day. Well my response to that is, I have a choice too, to not be with you.

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HI bigthoughts,     


You sound very smart and courageous. Stick to your guns. Listen to your instincts and take good care of yourself. Sounds like a great time to get going with a program for you. Give yourself a big gift of life.     


Blessings in Recovery......................................................



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First off, welcome to MIP bigthoughts

It is rough when someone you care about choses addiction over you, but it is what they do. You are setting healthy boundaries to maintain your sanity, great work, stick to them and keep working your program.


buzzfree

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((Bigthoughts))


Good boundary setting! I am so sorry you fell in love with an alcoholic!  You sound really levelheaded though.  Do what you need to do for yourself.  Take care of yourself.  Keep coming back, this is a great place to be.


Dawn



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bigthoughts


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Thankyou for your encouragements. I am not strong. I don't want to accept this disease. He loves me and won't want me to leave him. Can't he get better? I know he will get help and go to meetings if I ask him too.



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((((bigthoughts)))


You can't cure it or control it and you did not cause it.  Keep coming back here and please try to attend f2f meetings to help you to recover from being an adult child of an alcoholic.  You can only help you.  I was also very angry and it only hurt me more.  Never changed any of the A's.  Nothing got better until I got better.  


 


Yours in revovery,


 


Julia



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