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aunitedway


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(((BigHugs to Deblynn & d53 and ALL)))  for the subject going on....    I want to write a bit and share. I chose this because it seems to keep coming up lately.  Ok, here goes. 


Where ever  you go that are new places   to you      you have to give yourself time to "learn the ropes."  In CHAT  its taking the time to let yourself sit and listen..... after a while     anyone that enters    anyone that ventures in   begins to get the "jest" of it.    To get the feel of it     to see it truly is a loving and safe place to be   a safe place to open up    to let You be yourself.   THAT is what most of us are looking for.  Acceptance and Understanding.   Love and Support.    Yes, it does take a bit of time. I know.   I was new not too long ago * to all this internet stuff.  The chat room. The Message Boards. All of it.  LOL  I did just that.... toook my time.  (didnt i?)  But I am a "hesitant" person anyway.  I dont just jump right in to anything. That could be gunshy from living with an A,  (you think.? lol)


I am not new to AA or to Alanon.  But I am still fairly new to this. (Online Sharing)  I can only suggest that anyone new.... to it all     need just relax and let yourself take it in     Take your time  It becomes more familiar with time     And most of all ~  it's a good thing too. ((BigHug)) 


The other issue  (i know you have seen on the boards) about being offensive  the no talking religion and the being short with   and/or ignoring (nah)  a Newbie.    Is Simple.   When of if you witness it happening      To try this      just make a suggestion to an Elder   "could they PM (private message) the new person / newbie  to help them...?"  (if your not comfortable enough to do that yet... ((big grin)) )  and in  that simple suggestion you too could and DO help to lead to a successful first time for them. ((()))  


 I agree everything gets a bit busy just before and just after a meeting.  I always try to look for someone that may be new. Try to help them not get too overwelmed at the pace of it all. Others do too, look for new faces....new nicks (lol)   It really is a wonderful blessed process. Even though there are no rule books.  IT's having a common loving respect to each other is all that need be applied while visiting the chat room.  And if it gets tooooo busy for me    I just say," I cant keep up ((LOL)) I'm gonna listen for a while."  &  thats OK too. Just a smile here and there.... to keep you active. 


Sometimes   I know (think)  my words dont come out right. I try to be careful.... correct myself    but there are times    I may not catch it and am being a bit  too harsh.  I (my self)  would hope , and am/and will be in the future/ thankful for,  someone to put me in my place or tell me to take the conversation I am having to PM to continue it.  I will and would happily do so too. That, is a part of learning.  What is acceptable.  What is not. We all need discipline.  Old or young that doesnt matter. Its part of human nature. I never ever intend to be offensive or hurtful.  That's not working the program.  I want to work the Program. That is what is most important to me.  To share, to help, to reach out to those needing some es&h. To reassure and to lift up!    That helps Me to be/ remain Strong.  Helps Me   to be/ remain Upbeat and be/ remain  supportive to others.  ((It Helps Me.)) That's why I'm a part,a member, of the family of people of Alanon, A VERY LOVING AND SUPPORTIVE "FAMILY."  


Personally,  I love all the conversations.  I am here to learn. To share and to help. Learn different things., different ways to use the tools of the program. To "get along" lovingly, with others....   and I love witnessing  all the other   different views.... others es&h.  


One phrase comes to mind (program) **  "take what you want and leave the rest "  We are not here to "Dwell."  Not here lookin to get upset of those things we don't like or don't agree with. Alot of us face that in our homes     everyday.    We dont want to see or need to have it here    it brings back and causes pain    grief  and  inner  hardship  ((( personally ))   We are here to share , to help each other.  Not to make feel negative.  To help each other feel alive and useful (worth it)   and cared about.  


Reality is that not everything is going to make everyone happy.  SO.  If in the chat room or if reading the boards...I just leave   come back later    if it gets toooo much for me. There is always ... later. There is always  time   time to wait  and time to try again in a bit. 



Keep It Light!     Keep Coming Back!!   and      Keep Looking uP!!



I am learning more and more it's so much better to just    Lighten UP!   I'm gonna keep it on the uP and uP!  Keep it loving and supportive to whomever I am blessed to converse with... to whomever I am blessed to cross paths with.


Looks like I wrote a book    (sorry about that )   Haha  **AND  *LOOK MAC; I didnt pass out OR hypervinilate  LOLOLOLOL  ( Love You All! )    ((BigHug))


 


Your Worth it    So Work it!     *** WORK IT WORK IT WORK IT  ***  



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*** WORK IT WORK IT WORK IT  ***  


Personally I love chat. We screw up sometimes and miss someone, something Progress not perfection. We realize that somebody got missed somehow and we reflect and try to do better next time.


Moves hands up and down just like a f2f closing.

Bob

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jrtjosey


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Thanks for your personal fresh insight. I do remeber when you started, you admitted you were new and watching and learning, but then you jumped right in with both feet and have been a great contibrutor.  Thank You!


Josey



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Andrea12


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(((((((((((aunited))))))))))))))))))

Right on with your post........This happens and all we can do is try bette next time.....We are not perfect by a long shot.

This room is a warm, loving and friendly place to be.

Love Ya,
Andrea

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DebC


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Thanks so much "Aunitedway."  As a newby, I am glad that you and so many others have stepped right up to welcome me. 


I am glad and grateful to have found this haven and intend to be a regular.  I already have been given so much in such a short time.


Really appreciate it.


 


 


 


 



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