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kismetstrand


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If at all possible, I encourage all to get the pamphlet "Alcoholism the Family Disease" (P-4).  This is available at local meetings for free, you can also order it online at the WSO website http://www.al-anon.org/publications.html 


This pamphlet tells the purpose of Al-Anon, has some shares in it, has Questions Often Asked, explains some of the Slogans, has A Checklist for Evaluating Our Maturity, Thoughts To Live By, the Do's and Dont's, the Steps and Traditions, and the 3 Obstacles to Success in Al-Anon.  (In other words, there is a whole lot of good stuff in this one pamphlet!!)


Regarding recent chat happenings... I wanted to briefly quote those 3 Obstacles (p.23)  There is a brief summary after each which I will omit (due to copyright), I will just quote the beginning sentences and then list the Obstacles.


"All Al-Anon discussions should be constructive, helpful, loving and understanding.  In striving toward these ideals, we avoid topics that can lead to dissension and that can distract us from our goals.


1. Discussion of Religion.


2. Gossip


3. Dominance."


When I first started attending ftfs (face to face meetings), these were read at the beginning of the meeting, often with the Do's and Dont's also.  It was very helpful to me.  I understand we don't have the same thing in chat, and we are restricted by copyright laws in being able to post a lot of information.  This is one reason to encourage others to go to a meeting where they can get these pamphlets and other literature, or to order them online.  We try our best to share what we can, but being an honest program we do have to respect copyright laws also and can't put everything up for newcomers to see.  The website link above does have some literature available to read there.  Please feel free to explore it. 


With love, Kis



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kitty


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WOW!!! Kis, what a great site, looks like pamphlets "cartoon" for kids, I didn't even know the Merry go round called denial was in print anymore (mine is over 20 years old) ~ this site is awesome, added it to my fav's.


 


I LOVE A Guide for the Family of the Alcoholic P-7.


Jut click on Products, then Product Overview & your in to see all the goodies. 


There I was photocopying 8.5 X 11's mailing out heavy packages, @ .30 cents for most of these treaures, WOWOWIIEEEE


I'm thrilled! TYFS


love, -K



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Aloha Kis!!


God loves oldtimers who are true to the values of this program.  It had been a while since I've heard the 3 obstacles but now it's only been a few seconds and I am grateful to hear them over again. Keep coming back over and over...and over and...


(((((((hugs)))))))


Jerry



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twinmom2


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Thanks Kis


Your post was really informative especially for those of us who haven't been in Alanon very long.  In my F/F meeting last night I noticed on the table it stated.  Please Focus Conversations Directed Toward Recovery/Program.  I think helps reel people back into program.  Its easy to become tangential in thinking and conversation when there is a lot of chaos in someone's life. 


Thanks again,


Twinmom~



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Can I ask what is meant by dominance?

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Kis!!!


Thanks for sharing the Obstacles with the board. We do need to be ever mindful that how we act as a representative of Alanon does affect others. That is why the obstacles are in place. They are for ourselves - but they help newcomers feel welcome as well. We cannot control how we are perceived or understood by others - but we need to function under a set of guidelines for unity.


My f2f always reads the obstacles at the beginning of the meeting and I think it is a gentle reminder to as all as individuals and as a group to be kind to ourselves and to be kind to one another.


Love ya kismetstrand :)


Cyndee



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My newbie interpretation of dominance is when one memeber or a few members take most of the share time, or impose their will instead of the will of the group via a group conscience.

Bob

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