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My detaching with love seems to be happening slowly but surely. A couple of weeks ago my A son did not come home...which is normal. Even though he is 35 I still worry when I do not know where he is. Of course I will worry...he is an A and anything could have happened the night before. This one particular Sunday morning I did not feel the need to track him down. I went to church not feeling much anxiety. After church I went shopping and while I was there my cell phone rang. It was son. His first remark was "I think we are having a little role reversal here. Looks like I have to track you down now". I thought that was pretty awesome. Since then I have been doing so much better. I have really been feeling like whateveer happens.......happens. I think that I am finding so much strength with church (which I just started going to before Christmas) and these boards. What is interesting also is that I am doing better with my own addiction (food). My therapist said that my food obsession was driven by anxiety. It came from growing up in a A family. If these boards and my HP are helping to relieve my anxiety then who knows what could happen. I'm feeling happy today.
That sounds like great progress! I am doing more detatchment with love, but... I still feel anxious about it all the time. So I am not really there. It helps defuse the house, but not my brain or my heart yet. LOL
My Son is and A as well, it is very troubling at times.
Keep marching on, thanks for sharing your hope to the rest of us!
Take care of you!
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
Detachment w/love - Hmmm, I think that is what I am doing. After a very rough week last week and confusing weekend w/my A, I took the advice I got here from some wonderful people. Taking one day at a time. Enjoying the sober times I have w/my A. And my personal favorite "Watch the Actions not the Words!".
So I have been loving & affectionate to my A for the last couple of days. Enjoying him being home, working on the house and most of all enjoying me & the kids in return. I am trying really hard not to think about the next time he will disappear for a day or three. I am relishing the moments I have right now.
Thanks everyone for helping me through my last slump! Detachment w/love? Yea, I think that may be it. Loving him & detaching from his addictions.
