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After one week of reading and posting on this forum, I am going to my first "real" alanon meeting. You all have inspired me, provoked my thoughts, brought me comfort and made me feel "normal" like someone else out there understands what I am going through. Anyway, for some reason I am really nervous...I don't know what to expect. I just thought that if anyone could give me an idea of how the meetings function that maybe I wouldn't feel so nervous. Also, maybe I am nervous because its the first time I have really reached out for help for myself. Thanks for all that you share daily. It makes a difference to someone. robyn
I think we are all nervouse the first time. It is a big step, but really worth it.
There really is no need to be nervouse. If you don't want to speak, you don't have to (Well , maybe introduce yourself). I'm sure you will find the people there warm and welcoming. Just remember they have been through much of the same stuff.
Welcome Robyn. I'm glad you found us. Congrats for going to your first real meeting. Reading your entry made me smile. I remember years ago going to my first. I sat with a box of tissues in my lap and silently (I hope) cried through the whole meeting. Week after week, it was my box of tissues and I. I had to mop my hands before we joined hands at the end (not all groups do this, but that one did). Gradually I dried up and could speak. It was good to listen - now I think of those first meetings as out with the bad, in with the good. No matter what you do, they will welcome you and love you, and you'll be home for an hour. You don't have to perform to earn anyone's love or respect. It's yours already. I love that! Let us know how it goes. --Jill
Wow,awsome so glad you are going to a meeting.I too remember my first it was funny how I found alanon.I went to a AA meeting I stood out like a sore thumb so to speak.This lady came up to me and said honey you are in the wrong meeting there is a Alanon meeting down the hall.I did not want to leave my A for he needed his meeting.LOL,So I went and did not know what to expect...Everyone was warm and loving at my first meeting I only said my first name and everyone shared what brought them to alanon they asked me and I told them about the other meeting and the lady bringing me here to my first alanon meeting.I felt love I never felt before and the biggest thing of all was understanding.wow to be understood how sad I was, and wanting to fix my A in my life..One of the best things I ever did for me.Let Go of my A and let God guide me to a better way of life Alanon.Enjoy hun it is your turn....God bless angel/Sharon (((hugs)))
Hello, robyn, Congratulations on taking this step for yourself! I loved the posts about the first meetings. I remember feeling as if I was in a different space than I'd ever been in before. All these people telling the truth, and no one reacting to them! It is holy space. Blessings to you. mebjk
