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Since coming to Al Anon I have learned some basic skills to keep me sane while my AW has continued the 6 month long downward spiral. She has not had a nice word for me in that time, every communication is sarcastic at best... downright hateful at worst.
Includes taking swings at me... not too big a deal, because under the influence it's like defending myself from a 5 year old. She tried throwing my tape measure through the windshield of the racecar... Heck of a throw by the way, bounced off the windshield and off the fridge in the garage and through the window of the garage door. I've replaced 2 doors that she has tried to put her fist through. (they don't duck as well as I do)
I have brought back some of my sanity by reading the literature, going to meetings and getting some WONDERFUL insights from everyone here.
Then the curveball... All of a sudden Sunday morning she is fine, the sun is shining, the birds are singing and she loves her husband again. Anybody who doesn't see this as a disease, some sort of hateful twist on the brain waves just hasn't seen enough yet. This is not a trick... she had a great day and really enjoyed herself with us yesterday. What comes this evening, or tomorrow when we are to go see the councelor... who knows and who cares.
I count it as a blessing and enjoyed myself for what it was... a GREAT day. I could not have done that without you guys, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart!
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
What a great description of life with an A. One minute my A is wanting total commitment next proclaiming nothing is better. I have to remember it is his disease talking. When I detach I do not take it personally. I no longer go along the roller coaster with him. I can no longer be so easily manipulated. I also no longer put him first.
Wow ((((((((( hugs ))))))))) to you for enjoying the moments in the day for what they were... each moment is to be cherished, treasured, & the fact that you did NOT project - I mean completely F* it, didn't project - shows you are really really allowing the Program to sink in!
Two major positive acheivements! Proud of you sugars!
love, -K of Light
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.