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In addition to working on the steps and our own re overt, having a loved one with an alcoholic issue is never easy. In my own recovery and self-care, Ive been working on daily affirmations. At first they seemed cheesy, but for me they really work. In my own recovery, part of it is the loss of self-esteem and wanting to make myself better. We get so hung up on our alcoholic child, spouse, etc. that you start to lose a part of yourself. Its easy. Along with my early morning study and step work, I will use my daily affirmation and meditate on it (just repeating it over and over like a mantr). Then I go about my day. Ill recall it later if things get rough. It has helped me in just a few short weeks. Below are some resources to help you if youre interested. Happy self-care and recovery to you!
Peace!
Gabigail
Http://themavencircle.com
Http://shinetext.com
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Butterflies can't see their wings. They can't see how truly beautiful they are, but everyone else can. People are like that as well. Anonymous
Hi Gabigail It has been quite some time since you posted- I do believe that self affirmations are important and that is why one of alanon's suggested tools is daily gratitude lists. These lists are intended to bring our attention to the good in our lives and our own important, often ignored powerful assets. We then share these listss with fellow alanon members thus reinforcing them within.
Unfortunately the links that you posted are not Alanon Conference approved so i suggest that newer members proceed with that knowledge
Affirmations were always a start for me. And yes, yes, at my first Alanon meeting I felt that the slogans and expressions were really "corny".
But I saw past that, and saw past the fact that i was the only pal in the group- gals and pals.
I suffered from extreme stress and pain- headache, ear ache, sinus- you name it i had it! I had real trouble doing Step 11- I was either hyper-alert, or would fall asleep from exhaustion. A year or more ago i got help with my breathing- I had really shallow breathing!
Same time I stretch out twice a day and push gentle into the areas of pain and trauma. It does seem to take forever. I had to get over the anger and shame that i was a failure, as a person, and I was never going to make it!
Okay... living in the present, here, and sharing a posting with you... is a part of the programme too! Really rewarding and healing...!!!
David Alanon Slogans and expressions being corny was something my over confident "know it all self" felt when i entered program. When I actually started to use the slogans ,I discovered how powerful theses simple principles could be . I am so glad that by attending meetings, listening with an open mind I became teachable.
David it certainly was a pleasure connecting with you and attending an Alanon meeting together in NYC. . As for Tradition 4 which refers to groups being autonomous except in manners affecting another group or AA or alanon,as a whole. I do hope we respect that tradition here as well.
Thanks David and Hotrod!
Sorry, I forgot about they arent approved Al-Anon sites. I use the Alanon slogans all the time, and use the affirmations as a supplement. Both in combination help me with my own recovery. Ive seen a big difference!
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Butterflies can't see their wings. They can't see how truly beautiful they are, but everyone else can. People are like that as well. Anonymous
Hey gabigail - good to see you.....Good for you that you've found creative ways to enhance your spirit and recovery. Keep coming back - you are missed!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
When I first entered the rooms of Al-Anon, I was so confused and dazed by what was happening around me at home, I had lost all sense of my own identity. Daily affirmations were one of the many tools that helped me crawl out of that dark place, and they have a real knack for getting our perspectives in order, and get the day off to a positive start!
Tom
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"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
Thanks Gabigail... 
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