When my son asked for money today, I said no.  I should probably clarify that. He had a doctor appointment today and asked to borrow money for his office visit and a prescription he would need at the pharmacy.  In the past when hes needed money, my heart would believe it was for gas, or cigarettes, or whatever he wanted to tell me it was for; but my head knew where it was really going. This morning he sent me an oh, by the way text asking me to transfer money to his account so he could go to his appointmen, etc. I told him I wouldnt do that - but I would leave a check made out to the doctors office for the co-pay and I told him we could go to the pharmacy this evening to pick up his script. He didnt like that too much. Then he asked would I at least put $20 in his account because he needed gas - and I told him the same thing - if you need gas, well go to the station, but Im not giving you cash. He wasnt too happy with me. He gave me a couple of rants about how ridiculous this is, which only reinforces that in all likelihood, $10 would have gone in the tank and $10 would have gone to the liquor store. My head knows that what I did is still enabling; but saying no to just giving him cash today was a step for me.  And maybe this part is my heart still trying to fool my head, but sometimes I think his heart wants/needs me to say no, even though his head wants me to say yes. So that was my small step for today.  

Thanks for listening.