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I went by my husband's house last night to pick up my Check Visa that was mailed there. This was the first time I have seen him or even spoke to him since I left 3 1/2 weeks ago. I was able to hold myself together. I went into the house, picked up my mail and didn't try to engage in any conversation with him and then I left. That is a big step for me because in the past I have "lingered around" waiting to see if he wanted to talk about what happened. I am feeling like I am taking back some of the power I gave to him over me back. It was a good feeling.
Progress not projection. ((KeepLooking uP!)) Also try to make some face to face local meetings if you can, they will give you wonderous strength too. All are very loving and caring people. Bless You. Let Go and Let God Keep it Simple One Day at a Time
Bless you. I'm still struggling with the 'lingering' I go through with something as small as waiting for him to say or do something that will put my mind at ease (which never,never happens) when he comes home tipsy/drunk. It's like I'm waiting for a voluntary apology..an explanation as to why he insists on drinking all day..for him to tell me I'm right and he'll do anything to make me comfortable. useless lingering.I just end up being more angry, he's still clueless and all I had to do was walk away. I admire you for doing that;I'd have been doing the linger dance as well...especially after 3 and a half weeks;under the delusion of ANYthing good coming from it.
Bless your strength for walking away instead of hanging around for nothing.
((KeepLooking uP!)) Also try to make some face to face local meetings if you can, they will give you wonderous
strength too. All are very loving and caring people. Bless You. Let Go and Let God Keep it Simple One Day at a Time