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My husband came home last night and we had a very civil conversation. He said he would still like me to stay. ( With a beer in his hand) How romantic? It went well, still using same lawyer, divided some property. He still upset over bills, he doesn't talk to me about them, he just sets them out on counter with my name on them. Whatever, I have a clean slate, I paid half of everything this month. He asked me to pay next months utility bill, since I lived here, he asked me to pay 3/4, because of me and the boys, I said I don't think so, he agreed to half. We are getting there, 2 more nights and we will be fine.
Josey
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Julianne - It's best to move on. You cannot look back in anger in life. It's too short
You are doing great, jrt. Make sure you remember what YOU want. That is so hard for us sometimes, but it makes all the difference, and gets the focus off of them. Thank you for being here for the rest of us, too. It really helps all of us. It works, if you work it!!! Blessings and prayers, mebjk
WOW. I see in your post a person who is speaking their truth, who is standing by it, and who is taking care of herself by coming here for support. A woman who hears the nice words and simultaneously sees the beer can, and stays true to herself, and holds the A to the bargain. Let me again say WOW.
It took me a very long time to separate out what he said to me from what his actions were. I kept thinking, he's my husband, so he must love me and I will believe him. Finally, I started looking at the actions more carefully when the actions were inconsistent with the words -- it cleared up so much for me on so many levels. Made many of the hard decisions, well not really easy, but let's say clearer.
YOU GO GIRL! Stand your ground. You are almost there! Wish I was!
I am trying to get from point A to point B. I want to be at point B so badly....the journey to get there is what scares me....rather...setting that journey in motion. At least I have finally decided that leaving IS what I want. Staying is not an option.
God Bless You and thank you so much for sharing your strength. Keep us updated.
Love ya girlfriend. I sooooooooo know how hard it is.
My experience is that even though I now live apart from my "husband" and many attempts at reconciliation have been "only attempts." He's a wonderful man and I love him but he talks the talk and doesn't walk the walk and only talks about "maybe one more time" when I was moving, when I was filing for divorce, etc. Seems like he doesn't want to put the effort into me/us but doesn't want me to move on.
We are here with/for you. If by some miracle, he gets sober and works a program and ...... and .......... and......... (ha, ha) you can always evaluate your choices then.
Maria
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If I am not for me, who will be? If I am only for myself, then who am I? If not now, when?
