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Jearnee


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Grateful for spending the morning with my ABF who was of sound mind and great spirits. But what is around the corner is not lost on me. It is achingly raw and blaring at me. I despise seeing around the next bend with negativity but hoping and being disappointed is much worse. Should i hope?

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((Jearnee Live one day at a time, appreciate the joy and happiness without going into denial of the disease and developing unrealistic expectations



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Thanks Hot Rod...I second that!!   ((((Jearnee)))) smile



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I think our hopes often get transformed while we're not looking into banking on better behavior from the A.  The way I try to look at it is that I should always allow for the outside possibility that things will get better, while allowing for the fact that the odds are against it.  And making sure that I am not letting my own happiness and serenity hinge on that happening.  But anything can be around the corner, even the things I don't expect - for instance that my life can be wonderful even if the A does not get out of his present condition.



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I third that Betty (and Jerry)....I am grateful that my sponsor really, really pushed me to look at each morning as a new beginning. I can still have those moments of mental mayhem - where I want to assume I know the future because of the past or some other insanity swirls around. I am gently reminded by a power greater than I that today is truly all that matters.

So long as i stay centered spiritually and remain responsible for my emotional health, things work reasonably well - One Day at a Time!

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Thanks for posting Jearnee. Lot of good messages in here for me as well.

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I have long heard in the rooms...high hopes and low expectations...

This has worked for me. I focus on me and have learned that the expectations...my expectations...have ulterior motives. So, I always, always, always, check my motives. I get objectivity -- because that is the only way to achieve openness and honesty vis a vis expectations and motives. So, the problem with the expectations, and all that goes along with it...is ME. I can hope, but not be vested. I can hope, but not be dependent. I can hope, but not be contingent.

Nothing changes if nothing changes.

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Keep coming back...

God, grant me the serenity...to accept the PEOPLE I cannot change...the courage to change the ONE I can...and the wisdom to know it's ME...

 
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