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Shouldn't dwell on the negative and try to see where I am going. My issues really revolve around taking care of myself. When my A moved out he left all the responsibilies on me. As you know I heat my home with wood and I was getting a little low. Of course, my A offers to rescue me and help (he caused the problem). I thought that the best call for me instead of being helpless was to look for a solution. I loaded up 3 young boys in my truck, brought them to my house and let them loose in the backyard. So 4 hours later I have lots and lots of wood. While they were chopping I was able to run to my office and catch up. I live in a rural area and it is deserted on weekends but I found a colleague and ask her to go to the Open Mic at the library. The next day I went to see my brother and sister-in-law and they invited me to supper. Sunday another colleague invited me over for coffee. So the weekend flew by and I didn't feel so alone and helpless.
I walk out the door and look at my wood and I am so proud! Done and I did it. And you know what that tape in my head turned off for most of the weekend. Yea! Thanks for listening.
Wow! I am jealous! It sounds as if you had a wonderful weekend and were so independent. I know I feel wonderful when I am able to do something or get things done without having to depend on him. He is currently resentful that I hired people to complete the work on the house. It looks wonderful and I am not resentful while looking at a mess and waiting for something to be done. Good for you. Keep up the good work!
Way to go, nancy!! it feels good doesn't it? we use wood to heat our house, too, and I actually LOVE chopping wood. My mom once said, chopping wood heats you twice. Once when you chop it, and again when you burn it.
What an impressive achievement! I am so proud of you. I can get caught in that cycle with the A. It is a inter-relating that is not healthy. He is not that cooperative generally. I do try asking him to help with certain things but he never offers!
See what an inspiration you are!? hey those boys will be better people cuz of you. I just watched my son and all his same friends at my sons wedding. They all work and have great families. They were always helping cuz I was a widow.
Anyway also thought it was cool you kept your week end busy. It reminded me how I used to plan week ends so I would not be lonely and the kids would have fun.
We went to the fish hatchery, fed the ducks, drives all over the mountains, Played in water all over the place, rafting, swimming. Just simple stuff.
One door shuts and and another one opens. There is a new moon this week hope it brings new opportunities for you. Go back on your old posts and see how strong you are now. You should be proud of yourself. Luv Leo xx
