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She is our grand-daughter in law and she is in Hilo for a visit and she is a beauty and the mother of 3 stunningly beautiful great-grand children and she is a daughter of an alcoholic and the wife of the son of an alcoholic/addict and she loves to drink and ....get drunk. My heart is whimpering again as it did when I was married to my very own alcoholic/addict wife. Dear God here is another one I am powerless over that I am leaving on your door step and praying you will take her in along with the family connect to her. She put a facebook Utube clip of last nights party with her sisters and cousins and my heart still whimpers. My wife and I still know the old thoughts, feelings and behaviors and are sitting within program. We are powerless. Thoughts and prayers are appreciated. (((((hugs)))))
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Jerry)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) my good recovery brother......I cry with you...your love for her is heart rending....To love someone who is drinking/doing poison is torture...I am so sorry you are going through this, but I have faith in your strong program and dedication to doing the next, immediate right thing by you to maintain your emotional sobriety..........I am sending you love and peace and comfort in this......Gr8ful you are here and you have mine and your other family members to support you.........ALWAYS in support, HUGS, rosie.....
So, so sorry, Jerry. Heartbreaking for sure! I loathe this disease and although I am grateful for technology that brings us together, I also loathe the glamorization of sites like Facebook, Snapchat, etc,. Thoughts and prayers to you.
Prayers for your beautiful hearts ((((((((((Jerry))))))))))
Your love shines through and I am happily sending my acceptance for your beautiful great daughter in law, connecting all the way from Italy to your Pacific islands. Wow, what a powerful thought!
Prayers Jerry. I know, as do you from being an alcoholic and living that life that alcoholics attract other alcoholics. Add genetic influences and then you have people living in a alcoholic, disease filled, high drama home. In my drinking I picked other drunks to be with and my life was so limited and self sabotaging. It sucks to see others stuck where we once were knowing there is a solution....especially family.
Oh my brother Jerry - I am sending thoughts and prayers your way....I feel what you are feeling and understand how much your heart hurts. I am reminded often - more often than desired - how this disease damages, ruins, kills loved ones and friends. I am reminded how powerless I am in these situations yet am also reminded, as you have been, that there is a power greater than us who can restore sanity in those who want a different life.
Sending you special (((hugs))) today and hope you have found a sweet serenity spot, just for today!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Jerry -- I am so sorry you are going through this and feeling the pain, concern, and so much more. That intellectual grasp of acceptance and powerless sometimes just doesn't seem enough for us to be OK. No rationalizing, no common sense, sometimes it seems like nothing helps. For me, that was when I had to dig down deep and work harder -- on acceptance. For me, it was like watching a horror movie -- and I know how it ends and how ugly and terrible it will be -- and the worst part is that it is real life, right in front of me. I had to surrender to it -- and feel it -- and then try to get past it and let it go. I was powerless over feeling what I was feeling.
When facing this -- I stepped it up! Everything. My readings, my meetings and my phone calls. I spoke with and met with my sponsor more often.
I feel for you Jerry. All of my thoughts and prayers are with you. We are here for you.
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Bo
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God, grant me the serenity...to accept the PEOPLE I cannot change...the courage to change the ONE I can...and the wisdom to know it's ME...
Its sad just plain and simple to me when we see it in our young people. Then I have to think of how it was the pain of this disease that led me to alanon and that changed my life. What if the disease takes our family members towards this spiritual way of living? There's always hope x
Jerry, Sending the Serenity Prayer to you and yours. I can't add a lot to what the others have said in wisdom, but saying the prayer for myself and again for the A can be a help to letting go and letting God. I'm sorry for your pain. wp
