I thought I was going to have a terrible day, but am feeling pretty great.  I had some issues this morning and I would like to thank those in chat who helped me put the focus back on me.  I was worried about my husband possibly relapsing and felt that familiar sinking feeling in my stomach.  I went to chat, I read Getting Them Sober for the millionth time.  My husband asked me what was wrong.  I did not tell him I suspected he may have used, but did tell him I was trying to focus on my own recovery and not his.  He asked me some questions about recovery and I suggested he ask his questions at his meeting tonight.  I think often times he feels because I worked in a detox that I can handle all of his problems.  I did read with him because he can not read very well.  He ran some ideas past me regarding work and recovery.  I offered my opinion but told him that he had to start making his own decisions because he has to live with them.  We had a nice conversation.  He went to his therapy appointment this morning at the substance abuse center and is now at a NA meeting.  I was able to come here several times and check in and read some literature.  I made it through the day without taking ten steps back.  My HP is at work in my life and I feel the comfort he is providing me.  I have been asking for his help and I think that he is expanding my knowledge and giving me the tools I need to make it.  I still feel compassion for my husband.  I felt some anger today because he wasn't working his program the way I thought he should.  Then I realized that I am not in any better shape, so maybe I am the one working it wrong.  Who am I to judge?  I opened up Courage to Change and it hit home when today's topic talked about what is and is not my responsibility.  Thank you Alanon and Thank You HP!!! I ended the day with my sanity intact.