The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I know I probably have no right to say this but I will, I haven't been here in a long time but I never really felt much support from the members here.
It discourages me to post here only to see people read the posts and not reply. I may be feeling this discouragement only because I am having a really hard day but I came back here to try and get the support and wisdom of those of you that have been here for a long time, suffered as I have and have learned to move on and live despite the a, but I see most of the time the posts are read but not answered.
People need to hear from you, if you don't answer or give advise then why come here. Anyway sorry if I am being harsh but I feel like I am standing on the edge of sanity and there are all these people looking on but no one to step up help.
I rarely come into the message board myself. I posted my story back a few months ago and didn't receive any replies. I did however have someone who read my story email me and we have been on a daily correspondence ever since. We are going through similar situations, only she is a year further down the road.
Have you tried the chat room. The folks in there seem to be pretty receptive. However, they remind me quite often that they are there to listen and support but do not offer advice really. Give them a shot.
I know that I only answer a thread if I feel that I have something useful to say. Perhaps others have felt the same way about your posts. Sorry if you feel ignored, though.
Holly. Maybe part of the problem is, that like me, we are new to this and do not feel that we are qualified to respond. I do read a lot of the posts and don't respond unless I think it is something that I can comment on and make some kind of an appropriate response. Some of the problems others are experiencing are far removed from our own which makes it even more difficult to respond to. I do get the feeling that people here really do care about each other and try to be supportive when they can. Best wishes!
There are many hurting people here. I don't always know what to say and have been told not to give advice. I try to at least thank people for their posts when I read them. Because I also felt ignored when I posted awhile back. However some just use the board to vent. I have been giving here what I need to hear and I have found I get allot more support.
Hi Hollly, I am sad to hear you are having a tough time.
All I can say is, it is ok to ask for what you need. We don't actually give advice in alanon. More we share our experiences and may suggest something that worked for us.
So please, please keep coming back. Just say I would really appreciate responses.
It helps others to know you really want some feedback.
Hello Holly , well i looked at the people who respnded to your last post and there were a few of them , sometimes we don't see that we are getting help because they are not saying what we want to hear. or expected to hear. That used to happen to me all the time.
I am sorry if you posted and have felt ignored. I have been having so much trouble lately that I have been posting so much and not replying to others. That is very selfish of me and I apologize. Sometimes I read but don't respond if it is something I am not familiar with or am not sure what to say. I feel like I have been here forever, but really didn't start making progress until the last couple of weeks. Keep posting and let us know what you are looking for when you do. We are told that we can't give advice, but I'm sure others have been through what you are going through. Sometimes just hearing about someone else's experience can clue us in on our own.
i am glad your here! So sorry your not getting responses. but you must believe ... that those reading your posts are "getting something" from your posting.
this is about us helping each other. I like the idea that you might consider to visit the chat rooms....let others get to know YOU. They will be more likely to respond to your message board posts if they feel more like they know who you are. :OR
justkeepposting. Your name will become more familiar and others will begin to repond to you.
((BigHug)) ODAT KeepLooking uP Keep it simple Let go and Let god
I've found its an important thing just to acknowledge that you were heard. THE ANSWERS AREN'T THE MOST IMPORTANT THING SOME TIMES. Just to know someone listened is a good feeling and can be very supportive just to be acknowledged and not feel alone.
I HEAR YOU BLESS YOU COME BACK AND I RELATED TO WHAT YOU SAID
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I hope I didn't offend people but I do believe that we need to acknowledge one another, I think just know that someone actually read the whole post and replies with their support is what we need, otherwise, those who reach out for support feel like nobody cares that they are really feeling bad and need some friends, So I guess I just encourage people to answer, I'm not asking for advice I understand that we shouldn't give advice, obviously we don't know what is the best for ourselves let alone someone else, but to acknowledge them, say hello, reach out and give a share if they have experience that means the world to someone feeling desperate.
Welcome back holly! I think you hit the nail on the head with your post, however it does not mean we do not care when we do not respond. Sometimes we who read them just have no words to say at that time. This does not mean to stop posting as I feel it is very important to vent, or share whatever is bothering you at that time. That in itself can be very healing, releasing it from your mind and getting it out on print. I have posted many posts and no one has responded, so dont take it personally. In any case I am glad you are back, and I hope you are getting to your face to face meetings as well!.........Take care
So sorry your not getting responses. but you must believe ... that those reading your posts are "getting something" from your posting. 
I like the idea that you might consider to visit the chat rooms....let others get to know YOU. They will be more likely to respond to your message board posts if they feel more like they know who you are. 
:OR 
KeepLooking uP Keep it simple Let go and Let god
