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My mom died of Alcoholic and now my father is dying slowly of the same thing.
My sister older then me has 2 tumors that can't be removed at this time because she has been on to many medication for all the other issues related to alcohol. Not sure yet if it is cancers or not..
Then there is my older brother who knows where he is alive or dead. I haven't seen him or his kids in 12 years the last i heard he was diviorced, had herps, drinking ,and drugs!
Then there is my older sister and brother inlaw who I haven't spoken with for years and there both drinking and showing signs of liver damage and are in COMPLETE DENIAL !! There kids my neices and nephews are all a mess and in trouble with drugs sex and who knows what else their lives are a complete mess and only getting worse......
What am i doing about all this well I am talking to my sponsor, doing the steps ,and praying to my HP! Giving it all to him because i know that the only thing i can do!! I can't change them or control them I know i didn't cause it and i cant cure it so i just keeping the focus on my self and doing the best i can and BE THANKFL for what blessing i have and focus on that......
With out Al-anon and ALL the SUPPORT I have been given i am not sure where i would be rightnow but I can say it wouldn't be a good thing!! I am so blessed that my HP opened my eyes to this terrible dieases and i was given a 2nd chance to life and not end up like the rest of my family!!! I am terribly sad for all of them... Mybe one of these days there HP will help them hit there bottom and they will come to their sense before it is to late!!! :(
WOW I feel so much better now thanks for letting me share!!!! :) I guess if my family wasn't like they were i wouldn't have learn all I have about my self and this horrible dieases and devasting it can be!!!! I guess growth really comes from unfortunate curcumstances in your life!!!
Bubbles, your attitude is a healthy one. You realize you cannot control the others, that you did not cause their problems. You have turned it all over and are taking care of yourself. Good for you!! Your post, though sad, is a positive one. That's great! I hope someday your family members will get themselves together, but you stay as you are. You'll be fine.
With caring, Diva
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
I don't know where I would be without the support you have given me either! Having friends that stick by you no matter what is invaluable. As you know my one brother disowned all of his family almost 4 years ago and never told us why. It has broken my parent's hearts and they wish he would at least say what they did so they can apologize. I don't see my other brother for long periods of a time like 10 years or more and he is very involved in his own life. They never had children of their own or I think they would appreciate all my parents did for us in our upbringing. I guess all we can do is focus on us and do the best we can to have our own healthy family and spousal relationships. Thanks for sharing so much of you! I admire all the progress you have made since I first met you here. Your post was inspirational to me. cdb xoxoxoxoxo
