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I am thinking of moving to a different state. I would be moving over 1000 miles.
I have a house full of furniture that is older and has made several moves with me... 5 in the last 5 years. During each move more and more scratches and dents appear.
I don't know that I am particularly attached to any one piece.
Does it make more sense to sell everything, move and buy everything (dishes, pots, pans, furniture, etc.) new when I get there?
Or does it make more sense to pack everything up and move it again?
Moving is expensive, but replacing everything is expensive too.
There are two thoughts to this idea. Moving is expensive, as you say. Replacing doesn't have to be. I would opt for the latter and replace items a little at a time. Keep only what is a family treasure, pictures, and those things which cannot be replaced. Get the absolute essentials when you move, and go from there. Just remember, used furniture and other household items don't bring much money at sale.
Good luck!!!! Diva
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
I am a guy so take this for what it's worth... LOL
I have never had any bad memories around the small items that can really nickle and dime you to death... silverware, plates, pots and pans, towels ... blah blah blah
Furniture... you don't need much to get started. Most of the stuff that would fit in your car would be worth bringing with you, it is amazingly expensive to re-purchase all that stuff.
There is always room for treasures... *g*
Good luck and prayers for a safe and sucessful move.
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
There is "freecycle" and you can get free beautiful stuff from people. I have given away very nice stuff myself.
You can also find super nice stuff at Goodwill. Many stores donate brand new things to them. I don't know if you are into used stuff. But I like the old styles anyhow.
I would keep like one fry pan, one big pot, one med. pot. Just enough to get by.
This is just my thoughts doxie. I don't like stuff. If I do have something I reeeeally like it.
Freecycle is so cool. Most cities and towns have it online.
Ditto, Obviously you are taking stock of your life and your stuff. My suggestion is to keep what you love, and let the rest go.
You can easily find bargains at thrift shops and the like and start over . Believe me, having lost a good portion of my stuff in a hurricane flood, I know that mere things come back to you one way or another. Keep it simple.
I think what you're asking for advice on is a very personal thing. Your stuff is your stuff. If you have the capacity to wipe the slate clean and move you and your "special" things and start over I think that's great. But only you know what's best for you. I do know, however, that one of the city's you've mentioned moving to has GREAT resale and consignment shops for furniture and home decor. Just a thought.
I try to go through my things pretty regularly. Right now I have another spring clean planned in order to clean up my stuff. I am looking forward to getting more stuff out of here. Of course for me that used to be an opportunity to bring more stuff in but I am trying to reorganize a lot of things in my life so I am going to hold off on that for now.
I have been on both sides of the issue, moving too often (I once moved 5 times in a year) and moving too little. I would dearly like to move right now but it is not a possibility for me without great hardship. So I am trying to make better small choices which will eventually lead to better large choices.
Each day I make a better choice about taking care of me rather than neglecting me.
For me, I keep almost everything, but when I move I really try to go through it all and ask myself if it is necessary to bring.
I would bring what you think you cannot do without, and then if it gets dinged up, you can replace it later. example: you need an end table (kind of) so bring yours, if it gets bashed up then at least you have something to use until you get another one. You can then slowly replace what needs replaced without having to go without until the shopping gets done.
In my experience, freecycle is extremely hard to get anything off of, it all goes in a min or two of being posted. Thrift stores can still charge a pretty penny if something is really desirable, and flea markets you have to comb for a few weeks sometimes to find 'good' stuff that appeals to you and is the right price.
