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Thanks everyone, I really appreciate your kindness :) The funeral will be Wed. morning and the viewing Tues. evening.
This day is just snowballing out of control, it's almost laughable, but I haven't mustered up a laugh yet. We were going to take my Jeep because it's more roomier then A's Cadillac (he has a small Caddy STS), I realized I needed help because there is a gazillion things to do in less then 24 hrs to prepare for a 7 hr trip...so I asked my son in law to check the fluids in the Jeep, oil, antifreeze etc. He found a cracked hose, went to an auto store and found that it can't be replaced today, there's a factory part connected to it. Argh!
So I think, OK, we have to take the Caddy, no problem..then I remember that A's lisence plates expired while he was in the hospital. DANG!! OK, I know how my A is, he isn't gonna let me swap plates and drive out of state, so I didn't mention it and had my son in law do it anyway(sneaky)..I guess there is some good in A's forgetfullness.
Son had to work tonight and on his way out the door I asked him, You think your suit will still fit you? Son says, I lost the jacket. Uhhhm..scuse me, big bucks for that suit and he lost the jacket (wore it with his jeans)? *banging head on wall* Now is a heck of a time to tell me.
In between all this I'm trying to do laundry and get packed, work out with my daughters who is going to come and let Fatgirl (dog) out at what times of night and day,( Louie is coming with us). Phone is ringing off the wall interrupting me every 5 minutes. A gives me a list of things he needs from the store......... No problem, I'll stop everything and get right on that!!
I called my parents to let them know MIL had passed. Dad says "Are you going to come see us too"? That's over 100 miles round trip from MI. Uhhm, we'll see Dad. Dad says, You can't come all that way and not come. [/I just don't know Dad, I don't know what's going on in MI yet. Dad says, OK, I'll let you tell your mother but she'll be dissapointed.
Did I mention I'm totally exhausted from the happenings of the last month? Noooo problem, 7 hour drive? Nooooo problem!!
SERENITY NOW, DANGIT!!!!
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Where in MI are you going, Christy? I drove from Ohio to Ann Arbor, yesterday, then to Buchanan, MI. Today, I drove home from Buchanan, about a 6 hour trip,.I have driven aver 700 miles this weekend! Am tired!
As far as your son's suit, no one is going to care. As long as he is clean, the fact that he is there is more than enough.
My son has grown out of his suit and we hadn't bought him another yet when my FIL passed. He wore nice pants and a shirt. We did make him take off his orange Varsity jacket to be a Pallbearer. All anyone said to me is how he had grown into a fine young man. No one seemed to notice or care about his attire.
With everything you have been through it is amazing you are still standing. Okay your parents might be a little disappointed, but they will get over it.
Don't sweat the small stuff! Maybe your dad should drive over to see you? After all you have already driven all that way! Just a thought! Have a safe trip and don't break more than one law at a time! A great A friend of mine told me that one. No speeding with illegal plates!
Christy, You probably won't see this til you get back. I am thinking of you. Won't repeat what others said, but Maria has stated by thoughts exactly. No guilt, no worry, you are doing fine.
Not that you need anything else, but maybe you can remember to bring along some good music or something to help you relax on your 7 hour trip. I don't know what kind of scenery you will have but maybe the day will be beautiful and your HP will give you some wonderful stuff to see!
Ditto, ditto, ditto what everyone else says. Okay, I'm not original today. One thing, as long as your son is naked when he's at the funeral, no one cares what he looks like. He's there for you and his family. Thinking of you and your family. Have a safe trip.
Live strong, Karilynn
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don't worry bout it. As long as he's showered and not in holy jeans, honey you are doing well.