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Things have been so busy that I forgot to let you all know the outcome of the doctor's appointment for mom. It was not good; they have hooked her up with Hospice. She asked the doctor about time left, he said maybe 6 months. It is sad for me, she is my best friend. I share all with her, she is my inspiration, and continues to be amazing. She has accepted that it is her time to go. Probably way harder than she makes it look.
We are trying to get my son out of Iraq. The Red Cross have been great, the Air Force is another story. They have told him that they may send him home for 2 weeks, he will fly into Baltimore and the rest is on him......we live in Washington State. Are they thinking that he is from Washington DC? He plans on contacting Life Skills & the Chaplin at the Air Force Base here. He said he hasn't slept in two days and everything he eats comes right back up.
Our new baby arrived on March 14 at 6:02 pm, he was 7lbs 8 oz and 19 1/2 inches long, his name is Nicoli Noah. He is PERFECT!!!! I kind of think I am getting a cold so I probably won't see him this weekend, as I don't want him getting sick.
My new job is going good. My first paycheck for one week (I did a lot of driving I got paid for) was almost the same as a two week check from my last job. Now if me and my A could get on the same page about the budget. He thinks there is "extra" money!!!!! He has been getting off early and not telling me so his check this week was almost $100 less than what I thought it would be. Then he wants to tell me that he is being defensive because I am "attacking" him. WHATEVER......It's okay though, I still have the “shhhhhhhhhhh secret account”, there's not much in there but a little every week will build up eventually. My mother has made it very clear to my A that when she passes the inheritance in mine......not his....the way she is stating it in the will makes it clear......
Okay, well, I think I shall go fight the traffic all the way home, it's an hour commute.....take care and have a great weekend...
What a tough week for you. I can empathise with the financial irresponsibility of the A. Mine is totally irresponsible financially most of the time. He has lots of bills. I used to get involved in them now I don't I must say it is a tremendous relief not to.
I am so sorry to hear about your mother's illness. I hope that hospice will be able to help her. I think it is actually quite difficult for doctors to predict the length of time someone has left but to get hospice they have to be able to predict it is 6 months. Some people do of course go over that time.
I am glad that your new job is going well. I am also very glad that you reaching out for support you do of course deserve it at this difficult time.
Oh Mary, I am so sad to read about your mother. I completely know where you are. I was there October of 2000. My mother was my best bud too.
Please take care of you. My mother told me she felt more upset about us kids than herself.
One thing that helped me so much, was my friend Cass. She had lost her mom before I did. I had NO idea what I needed, but she did. She was with me so much. I needed that big time. If you can, have a close friend with you. I mean when ya have to make decisions or when ya have to do something uncomfortable.
I am glad you have hospice. They are so supportive.
You have so much going on. That is so neat how you make double the amount on your job a week. Sorry A is well uno. I hope you just sock away some of your earnings and don't look back. Good for you for taking care of you.
oh babies are so wonderful. Bet ya cannot wait to hold him.
hugs and prayers for mom, love,debilyn
ps I had people send my mom cards from all over. If you choose to do that let me know. I would love to send her a card from oregon.
We did this for gma too. But of course trying to explain the internet and computers to a 106 year old woman was like, "Oh you cannot see my heart with a machine!" She got an ultra sound and would not believe I saw her heart. ! lol so explain the internet...nahhhh
Hi Mary, so sorry to hear about your Mum. I can't even begin to imagine what that must be like, I'll keep you in my prayers. I think Debilyn's card idea is wonderful. I live in the UK and would be happy to send one from here too. Pm me with an address if that's what you decide to do. Hope you manage to get your son home.
Congratulations on Nicoli Noah :) I will say prayers that your son can make it home to see your mom and that his time in Iraq will be safe for him too. I am so happy for your new job too :) And that secret account is a wise thing to do! Keep focusing on you. I do relate to the death of your mom since my mom's alzheimers is a slow death too :( It has been so hard on me watching her fail and my heart goes out to you during this difficult time. Will your mom be able to see Nicoli too and hold him? Enjoy all you can with your mom. I will pray she does not suffer and is kept as painfree as possible. (((((((mary)))))) your friend, cdb xoxoxoxoxo
Hi Mary such a touching post, one life ending and another joyous one beginning with Nicoli. So special for your Mum to know that there is another little bundle in her family who will be able to experience the love that has already been passed down the line from your Mum to you. Nicoli is blessed to have such wonderful people in his life. I hope your Mum does not have to suffer too much pain and she has quality of life now. Please know that we are all here for you. A mother's love is like no other and we all feel your anguish. Luv Leo xx
I can't even begin to imagine what that must be like, I'll keep you in my prayers. I think Debilyn's card idea is wonderful. I live in the UK and would be happy to send one from here too. Pm me with an address if that's what you decide to do. Hope you manage to get your son home.
Maria