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My daughter A has been out of a 26 day rehab for 13 days and today she relapsed. She said she was depressed. Depression will probably be something she has to deal with the rest of her life. It saddens me to know that every time she feels depressed she could potentially drink again. I had really hoped she had hit her bottom. I know there is nothing I can do about it. Fortunately I have been going to f2f meetings for the last month. Unfortunately I have not yet built a support group nor gotten a sponsor. I just don't know anyone well enough yet.
You have a support system right here, be it the Board or the chat room, plus you have yourself & your higher power! We are in chat 24/7, u can always come in & say, I need to vent....
I used to jump in & out, ppl acting silly, all u have to do is ask & there will be people there for you. As much as we all want to recuse our loved ones, we have to lead our own lives... as hard as detaching with love is... there is nothing more powrful we could do for our A's or for us.
Take care of you! Give her to God, it is all any of us can do.
in love, -Kitty of Light
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
My daughter who is now 21 relapsed after treatments too. Her relapses were lessons and part of her sobriety journey for her. They are to be expected. She was in an outpatient program first. Then she ended up in an inpatient program for 2 months. She still had some relapses/slips but they were very short. She has now been clean and sober for 3/4 of a year I believe. That is the longest time. She was always the hardest on herself when she would relapse. One time a boyfriend of hers told me that when we(he parents) found out she relapsed we would think she was a F up, No good and disown her. That was the farthest from the truth but that was how she felt. She craved so badly and had what they call using dreams. I cannot imagine how hard it must be for them to get their addiction in control but I am not sure if I could do it. Try to look at the positive and know that she is on a lifetime journey and doing the best she can right now. My daughter needed AA to stay clean and sober and realized this after her relapses too. She also needed to find new friends who were clean and sober and supportive of her. Maybe your daughter needs to learn such things for herself. Always have hope. Someone once told me that my daughter could feel my feelings when around me. That is when I began to feel more positive, up and hopeful. I wanted to pass those feelings on to her and not the sad and hopeless ones. I hope something I just shared here helps you. Who knows why our daughter's have to live with this awful, horrible disease but they do. If we stick with our program that only helps them and us too. your friend in recovery, cdb xoxoxoxo
