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Okay, new here. First time ever posting on a message board. Please be kind. Been reading posts for several days now. As my name says "been on both sides" I am an A. Don't hate me yet. Working on my recovery. And now living with a full blown A. He's on a rampage right now. Tearing thru our storage. To find a shirt, he says?? It's not going to be a good nite. Several of your posts have touched me intensely. Some have made me see what I must have been like (maybe).I am not an angry drinker. I have such sympathy, empathy, and sorrow for so much of what so many of you are going through.
One such post said something about you would have to be an "A" to understand an "A". I don't remember your name but thankyou. It's your post that made me want to be here. (Al-Anon, though I don't know if I will be welcomed). Actually, I'm totally baffled. I don't understand. I just moved in with my "A"bf. The mood swings, the senseless talk, the blaming me. I cringe every time I hear the "pop" of a can opening. I look at the level of the vodka bottle. Do I walk on pins and needles tonite? Do I smile and engage in conversation? Will my conversation set him off? I feel so lost.
Anyway, I would like to be here. And I am willing to answer any questions of being an "a" as you all have given me insights to living with one. Though that may not be for long. I'm suppose to be out by the end of the month. But then I was suppose to be out by the 14th. But then I could stay as long as I wanted. But then.........yeah you know.
Welcome to MIP! Of course you are welcome here. As our literature says if you are affected by another's drinking you are in the right place. We are a fellowship of relatives and friends of alcoholics. So that is you! Please feel free to come to our meetings and enter the chat rooms for experience, strength and hope from other members.
I'm glad you are here! You are not alone. At my F2F (face to face) home group we are blessed with several fantastic people who are, as they would say, "in both rooms." They have been or are affected by anothers alcoholism and need what we all need -- serenity. It's also amazing what they bring to the meetings, I'm forever touched by these individuals.
We share our experience, strength and hope. We learn how to apply al-anon principles that help us keep our sanity even when things seem so far from sane. (like destroying a house looking for a t-shirt ) I hope you'll keep coming back. There is so much to be gained here....you are worth it.
Not welcome ?? are you kidding me ! I don't know anyone who needs al anon more than a recovering alcoholic , your surrounded by them Dual members are always welcome and living with an active A qualifies u for this program. Hope to meet u soon in chat . Louise
I hope you will not be overly sensitive of what i'd like to say. You seem to be still a very feeling soul. I see u as witnessing a blessing in disguise. You are aware and willing to see where u could be IF u weren't in recovery. It can make u to feel whats its like and that will help u'r motivation. I'm glad u'r wise enough to be here with the rest of us When u'r ready to
U'l find here and Keep coming back That's my
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I tell myself when times are rough, "this to shall pass!!!" Ask HP for guidance, if the door is open, and I know how to look, I will become aware! I also visit http://www.inspiringthots.net/ . Blessings , Your sister in Recovery
We learn from each other and support each other. It is about the disease. There is hope and help here. Sometimes the responses are to the point and only meant to help us. Keep coming back.
Of course you're welcome. As a "double winner" you have a lot of wisdom we need to hear. I'm sure you have a whole other view of this disease to share with us. Keep coming back!
You are in the right place! I found this website just a few months ago! I am not so familiar with computer chatting and boards like the younger ones are nowadays. lol.
The laughter, the tears and hugs, the humor,support and most of all the very effective ES&H, is priceless. Forever Thankful for THE 12 STEP PROGRAM! Work your program, attend meetings and VISIT HERE OFTEN. You are not Alone. Welcome "Double Winner!" Take careYOU
I see u as witnessing a blessing in disguise. 
You are aware 
and willing to see where u could be IF u weren't in recovery. It can make u 
to feel whats its like and that will help u'r motivation. I'm glad 
u'r wise enough to be here with the rest of us 
here and 
Keep coming back That's my 
I found this website just a few months ago! I am not so familiar with computer chatting and boards like the younger ones are nowadays.
lol. 