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So last weekend, daughter and I went interstate for a weekend- our first proper 'vacation" since I flew home to Australia 13 years ago with her still in utero!
It went off without a hitch despite my best efforts to worry it into disaster.
My mother had insisted that the airline we were flying with was "too cheap, very rough and a mistake", so we were pleased to discover that our plane was quite modern and comfortable. Based on her reviews of Jetstar we expected to find the pilot out on the tarmac winding up the propeller as we boarded, and that there would be an enormous rubber band stretching down the center aisle but instead it was the regular kind of plane with engines on the outside which was a lovely surprise.
We stayed with some friends...interestingly they are a couple I met and came to know as part of an online game some 10 years ago and have only met in person one time since- so I was pretty nervous about staying with them but, they're such lovely people and were so kind and welcoming. (They went above and beyond really). They collected us from the airport, took us out for breakfast on the Saturday, took us sightseeing (we saw a lot of Sydney in one day!!) and attended the nerd convention (the purpose of our trip) with us the next day. They lamented that we really hadn't had enough time to do much and asked us to come back for a longer visit and you know what? We really will. It's not difficult or expensive to get there so we're planning to go for a week early next year. Hooray!! Friends! Social engagements! Soul Food!!!
I also had the chance to meet with another dear friend that until now I have only known as a pen-pal of sorts while I was there so it was a really positive and sociable journey. You know how you have "internet friends" and you often say 'one day we will meet" and it never comes to pass? Well it did last weekend and I love that things like this happen now; "one day' more and more frequently becomes "today". And there's something quite special about turning an 'online" friendship into a "real life" friendship I think.
Abf stayed at my place while I was gone and was super helpful while I packed and stressed. He didn't make a fuss over me catching a cab to the airport and taking my car keys with me. When we returned the house was still standing, there was no mess of any note, the dog and cat were fed and happy and he said he'd taken the dog for 2 good long walks. My room smelt very faintly of cigarette smoke and he admitted to having had "just one" inside but the windows were all open and now I have a cold anyway and can't smell anything so, that worked out for the best too lol. By the time I can breath through my nose again the room should be well and truly aired out. He also stayed in touch via skype and was happy and up-beat which helped me relax and enjoy the trip. The day after we returned he washed all of his dishes and swept the floor without being prompted which was enough to make me wonder if we had returned to the wrong house really, lol!
So all in all, what a success! I feel really good about it as it was a huge step out of my comfort zone and I feel as if it's the beginning of a new chapter of sorts. Now that we have done it once, I feel like we can do it again.
It also feels really good to have taken daughter on a trip for fun as previously she had been on several vacations with her father and I had a real "poor me" complex about it so this was taking the bull by the horns for me and I feel great about it.
On the way home I had a real sense that my HP was looking out for me. On the trip there I had been busting to pee but as there was a gentleman drunk and asleep in the aisle seat I had sat in considerable discomfort. As we boarded on the way home I said 'I so hope that this time there isn't anyone seated in the aisle seat" and lo and behold- the entire plane was full aside from the seat between me and the aisle. Uncanny! Then on the trip home I told daughter that I so wished there was another way to get home from the airport as the taxi is so expensive and the alternative was calling abf and disclosing the location of the hidden key...not a favored option however it was after midnight and we were so tired.... so anyway when we alighted at our cute little regional airport I saw a man behind a desk with a sign indicating he ran a shuttle service into town. I approached him to enquire about the cost thinking that I might be able to use it "next time"and he said "I'm going as soon as everyone has collected their baggage and I have 2 seats left" and he dropped us at our door for about 1/3 of the cost of a taxi. Apparently he picks up people in my area from their home before each flight out and drives them back after each arrival...(it's a teeny airport so only a few flights a day). How cool is that? And how amazing that he had precisely 2 seats remaining. Thanks HP
Anyway I'm super pleased that we made this trip and that it has opened doors for future trips and friendships and expanding my little world. What a very long way things have come from where they were 2 years ago when I first came here to MIP in complete misery!!! Thanks everyone for being a part of my journey.
And here of course are some pictures of our trip and the lovely people we met lol And yes, that's a close as it gets to a smile from my dear tweenager these days lol.
(((Everyone)))
-- Edited by missmeliss on Thursday 26th of November 2015 09:47:35 AM
If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
Congrats and adventure is good for the soul!! Some of my best friends are internet friends I have known literally over 111 - 12 years .. they have been the biggest blessing in my life and I have only met one for a visit. We had the BEST time!
LOL .. well it's good your daughter wants to be seen with her mom in public.
So glad you had such a lovely trip and plan another one soon!
Hugs S :)
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
It sounds like it was a great success - yay for the both of you! Great photos and so happy to hear it was a good trip all the way around...
I also have a ton of friends online. I remember one gal and her husband who I knew online and had posted asking for prayers as their son had been in a car accident in KS (where I live). They were on disability and had no monies to travel to see their son. Long story short, we figured out that the wreck was in my area and he was in a hospital close by. I offered them shelter if they could get 'here' and they made the drive and stayed with me. They were beyond grateful and I was happy to have helped them out and felt very moved that HP was engaged as their son did pass from the accident.
I realized that life is short and when I can be of service, it's good to do so. I am so glad that you opted to stay with your new-found/internet friends. I am certain they were as thrilled as you were!
(((Hugs))) - thanks for sharing your 'excellent adventure' with us!
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Sis your imagination cracks me up and I am grateful/thankful for the laugh. Having flowing aircraft in the past I could never imagination "propping" a plane with a long rubber band propulsion system though I know what they are from childhood. LOLOL. So Happy also that the vacation worked out well and thanks for the pictures...Bless you again and I pray it continues into the future. Happy Thanksgiving. (((((hugs)))))
What a great adventure- and how well it turned out, Mel...?
Have been doing some music therapy, which I more or less designed myself. I did a weekend course in a cappella singing, to try and find my singing range that I felt comfortable with. Okay so far so good!
Have always wanted to present some of my bush poetry so entered a competition up in upstate NSW. Part of the fun is to do a bit of busking. I can sing The Bush Christianing Irish style. I have been practising at work- up on the mountain. Since I am going over to OZ I decided to have an Italian style up my sleeve too. So I am practising to sing the aforegoing to the tune of That's Amore.
So come February I shall be parking my shovel up for a few days and heading across the moat. We have booked on Jetstar too!
Had to josh my SO along a bit- her not believing her old couch potato was actually going to do this. Now I can drive a car across a cow paddock, but more than two lanes... ... so I made madame my manager- and I am sure she will have fun as well...
some of the fruits of recovery... hopes and dreams. Tell the world if I drop dead before then that ah died happy!
Thanks everyone
It feels great to have gotten out of my comfort zone, that's for sure.
Good on you for getting your poetry out there, David! You're a braver soul than I. Funny, we were considering late February for a return visit to NSW...perhaps we could find our way to your competition!!! You never know.
Great to hear from you
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)