The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Today is day 1...today I will try to remain calm inside my head. Today I will not reach out (good or bad) or reply to XAB emails. Today is about me.
To the XAB, congrats on a two month chip. I know it has been very hard to achieve with all the guilt and shame you carry. I'm sorry I can't say something in person, but I'm so filled with hurt and anger, and that it is no good for either of us.
To my new friends, thanks for letting me put some of my baggage down around you. I'm too tired to carry it alone.
Great job making your goal/day about you.....if you feel uncertain, pick up the Serenity Prayer as Betty suggests or reach for another program tool! You can do anything you want - one moment and one day at a time!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Nicely done OT! Switching the focus to YOU, where it belongs. You only have power over you and your choices. Nice job with not showing up when invited to text or e-mail. It took me awhile to learn that I didn't have to show up to every fight I was invited too. By replying I was opening the conversation up to a debate and I always lost at some level. Remember, we don't have to Justify, Argue, Defend or Explain ourselves unless WE want too.
Yes, bring your baggage here. This is a safe place to unload and re-charge.
Thank you for your support. The day is not done yet, but it is progressing. I have received 4 emails so far and have not replied. They seem to be I'm sorry, yet goodbye, yet please wait till I get better. I need to not feel the messages he is trying to convey, or feelings he is trying to stir.
