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You didn't say if you spoke to her in person, emailed her or left a message for her.
Different people will get back to you in different time frames. If someone is extremely busy, or has had something come up in their life it might take a little longer.
Possibly she needs to think if she wants to take on this responsibility in her own life. You might want to follow up, and if you still don't get an answer seek another sponsor. Don't take it personally, sometimes it takes a while to find the right person.
I agree with Jeannie in that sometimes it just takes time. Personally, i think it's a really good thing for someone to take their time before getting back to you. Maybe they need to pray on it first, or talk to their sponsor before taking on the responiblity of sponsorship. If that is in deed what they are doing, it says a lot about their program. Even if they say no to you about sponsorship, it can mean that they took a good look and where honest in their response to you. Maybe they weren't ready, or they weren't going to be able to give you what they feel you deserve in time or attention. If you dont hear back from them, there's nothing wrong with calling them or emailing them back again either. No matter what the answer is they give you , knowing that hp has it under control is really comforting to know. He know's who the best sponsor would be for you, just dont give up because one person said no. It can take a while to find the right sponsor for you.
barbara give it a reasonable time....and than i would move on to anther search for sponser.....if she doesn't respond, it MOST likely is becuz she either doesn't think she can handle it OR she has issues in her own life and the timing is wrong.....
i know for myself....if someone asks me to sponser them...i watch their posts...i see how **serious** they are working their program, how much/ willing they are to work hard, etc, and i make my decision from that....sometimes i have to observe them for a bit b4 i decide.....i get asked quite a bit the serious ones, i take.....the ones who are not serious and just want "hints" on how to cope and not to recover and change their attitudes, i write them a nice note and explain to them that when they are SERIOUS, to come back....
if u are working the steps, reading the literature and doing what U should do to help U, i am sure U will find the right sponser who will aid u in ur recovery......in the meantime, i strongly suggest that u work the 12steps....go to as many meets as u can.....journal off the literature that is conference approved like pia melody's books, and melody beattie's books...."courage to change" is a good one.......i read the "dailys" on the hazeldon foundation website...i read the literature, copy and past it to my word processing software and i journal it......it helps me look at me...think in the here adn now and it prompts me on what step 4 items i need to work on.........u can do this while u shop for sponser......good luck, rosie
I don't think it's possible to work the steps correctly without a sponsor. I know for me it sure wasn't. That's exactly why we need one......to guide us through working those twelve steps and gaining the most we possibly can from them.
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Kathy S --
~*I trust my Higher Power that I am exactly where I am supposed to be in my life today.*~
