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You guys said things, every one of you, that made so much sense. Things I never thought about.
Ok my reasoning. I have so much upkeep I am behind on. I would have him do a list of things that need to be done.
I would start on a trial basis. Like ok show me what you can do in four days. Plus he can stay in the sunroom like I HAD TO WHEN HE ABANDONED ME!!!!
He knows I will call the sheriff to get him out of here if he refuses to leave. He also knows I bought another gun.
He is very against guns after Viet Nam.
He can poop in a bag like I had to!!! And at least he can pee standing up! Does not have to sit on a camping pot and have all the animals watchen ya go! lol lol lol
You guys made me think. Ok if he does the chores, it is A LOT. I can no longer use my post driver, I need my fences done.
So many little things easy for him.
I don't have to communicate with him. He will be up at the barn.
This way, he can find out how hard it is to be homeless. He will be told he is not welcome in the house. He can go to the consortium to take a shower.
He still drives his truck of course.
NO I do not have my mind made up. I thought I would not answer when he calls and if he comes up here not aelet him know I am here, just the gal renting part of my house is here
I believe he needs to feel some desperation.
But it is all up to hp. I have not heard from him. He could be dead for all I know.
He and his friend maybe are too tired of being sick to go on. I do feel so sad for them both. What an awful sickness.
Anyway I am reading your posts over and over.
OH and nooooo I am happy for gma!! she lived almost 106 years with the ability to live until the end of dec. 05!!! can ya believe it? She hated being helpless and wanted to go so bad.
I will write more about it later. WE had a wonderful 2 months together. I would yell in her ear, it is me grama, debilyn. then I would say do you know who I am?? she woudl say no and start laughing at me.giggle.
Just lots of stuff like that.
She would want me to help her move over in her bed. She got way to the side. Then pats the bed and says ok now you can fit right here. lol lol
we did nap a lot together. Probably both of us drooling. sigh
I am fine about that. you are right, I am resting and drinking water and eating well. sleeping ok. I have to find me a king bed. My Sauveur, Great Pyrenees demands he sleep next to me. He is about as tall as me. 5'3". And getting wider too.
Then I have three Bassets up there too !!! sleep??? oh well if I have any room to get comfy.
You always end up doing what is right. Your serentiy and devotion to your HP guides you.
Your Grandma is so lucky to have you celebrating her life. You where both blessed to have each other. She will live on in your heart and memories and I am sure you made her so very proud.
I do understand how important it is to have someone help out with things you cannot do because of chronic pain. I like the idea of having him do the chores and fixing fence posts. I wish I had someone to help me out. I have often thought about calling and seeing if kids on probation that are under 18 could do community service by helping me out due to my limitations. Maybe try to let go of the past though with having him do what you had to and focus on the hear and now. He is an asset to you now, plain and simple. Free of charge :)
My mom is so excited that I am coming to be with her and dad again this week. With her alzheimers she is a little childlike and fun to be with. We do fun little things like you and your grandma now too. I treasure all the memories she and I are making now too! You are so blessed to have had that time with your grandma. (((((debilyn))))
My daughter is so manic today :( She took the day off of work. I am so worried about her. Prayers for her are still needed.
Keep us posted. I will catch up when I get back. cdb xoxoxoxoxo
