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My A daughter is in her first trimester of pregnancy and is on her way to ER now. She was having cramping which worsened and she now is spotting. Her boyfriend is taking her and will keep me updated. For those that know my daughter, you know how she has struggled and finally found recovery. This pregnancy has been a blessing and she needs all the prayers she can get now. I do believe in prayers. Thank you for any prayers and support you can give at this time. I will keep you updated. your friend in recovery, cdb&daughter
Thank you for your compassion, support and replies. My daughter did lose the baby :( I just pray now that she can maintain her sobriety and that her depression does not worsen. I am in shock. I was waiting for a call and she came to the door. She did not want to talk. She just wanted to go home. They gave her hydrocodone and offered no reason for the miscarriage. I am numb now. She has worked so hard on her sobriety and this baby was such a blessing in all our lives. Her boyfriend was also crying and so very sad. I did maintain my boundary and didn't rush to the hospital like I would have before alanon. It was hard for me. I thank the alanon program for teaching me all these new skills and the coping skills which I will need too right now when I am able to feel what just all happened. Further prayers would be so appreciated. My daughter and her boyfriend (also a recoverying drug addict) need them right now. I don't know why bad things happen to good people. I was so excited about being a grandma but decided to not share it with all of you as yet. It will hit me too. For now, thanks again for your prayers and support. cdb xoxoxoxoxo God Bless All Of You!
Gosh this hurts! I have been feeling anger tonight and don't know why. Alot of women miscarriage but for all my daughter has gone through, it just hurts is all I can say. I Thank God/HP for the true friends I have here and in my alanon support system elsewhere that truly care and I also thank God/HP for the wisdom to know the difference. cdb (((((((those that have hearts)))))
May God keep you all in his loving care. My daughter in law is also in her first trimester and 2 weeks ago was rushed to ER with a blood clot on her lung. Thankfully,it was dispersed and seemingly no ill effects on her or the baby. It's been very worrying.
I am so sad that your daughter lost her much wanted baby and pray that she recovers fully.She is lucky to have such a wonderful Mum to help her through this.
I am so sorry for your loss... wise words are painful when we are hurting... truly I hate to say much of anything. All I do know, is often bad & painful things happen to us when God is trying to reach us... I have read that miscarriages occur when we are in a lot of stress or there is something wrong with the fetus.
What are the pysicians going to say, they seem to know so little about so many things, even still.
I am sure, you will be a grandmother, there is no doubt in my mind. You already have so much to deal with that is on your plate, parents, husband, poor little Burton. Maybe God just wants her to have a little more sobriety to take on such a huge, life-long responsibility as having a child. I wish I could take your pain away, I don't think any of us will understand what is in the nature of God's Divine Plan for us.
I pray that all of your pain is eased & that through this you will continue to grow closer with your precious daughter, that she will attend close to Burton & maintain her sobriety & serenity in this time of crisis. Cling close to each other in love, surely this baby is an Angel and is watching close over your daughter now. Don't forget to be kind & gentle with yourself, don't worry, have faith that there are no coincidences & a reason for everything.
I am so sorry for your loss, you know I love you (((cdb))).
Your Friend, -Kitty
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
Thank you all for your undconditional support and sympathy. ((((((((MIP friends))))))) I have 2 grandbaby angels in heaven now and will pray for them the rest of my life! My daughter is pulling away from me now and that is so hard on me. I am able to respect this and give her the space she needs but it hurts because I just want to hold her, comfort her and make it all better. I suppose this may be part of a recoverying drugaddict/alcoholic too,although she was like this as a child too. When ever she got hurt she wanted to be by herself. She obiviously has her walls up but at least her boyfriend and she are staying close right now and are there for each other. I am postponing my trip for a few days to go to my parent's in case she needs me. I am very upset about something that happened last night though. She left ER 4 hours or less after going there with the impression that she lost the baby. Well,the baby came out at home!!! It was a perfectly formed fetus just like in the books she said. How traumatic for her! Either they explained things to her and she didn't hear it or they forgot to prepare her for what was to come. I am so angry about this! What kind of world are we living in! Our insurance would have paid for her to stay overnight. She has her walls up big time now. I lost her once and I hope I don't lose my daughter again. This is a big test for her now and any continued prayers for her are appreciated. I do believe in prayers. I hope I wasn't too graphic but God help those that this has happened to also! She will share with me more when she is ready but please God, keep our relationship intact and like it has become lately. Chris, I will keep you and your daughter in law in my prayers. She is one lucky woman to survive a blood clot like that! Thanks again for your support and sympathy. cdb xoxoxoxoxo
Maybe they told her what to expect and maybe they didn't. knowing she was in the middle of a miscarriage she was probably so emotional, she wouldn't have heard it anyway.
I would be angry with the hospital as well. She should not have had to see that.
She can never replace this baby. But she is young and needs to keep her sobriety to go on with her life and possibly have other children. She will need love and understanding, but she needs to get through this for herself.
