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Wife is in the ER, appears to be an attempted suicide attempt. We got done playing a game of Life last night and 2 of the kids were begging to sleep at their Aunts. We got up early and headed home. I'm kind of kicking myself because in the past when she was suicidal I'd never let the kids in the house alone until I went in first. I had no idea that she was suicidal though.
13 yo found her and saw what appeared to be a suicide note on the table. It said something like Don't worry, I'll never interact with YOUR children again. I found one pill that I'm not sure what it was, gave it to the cop. I found the tylenol PM bottle and it appeared to have some missing. Don't ask me why but I counted them last week. I think that may be the main ingredient.
I got mydaughters to school bus, got son to a neighbors and the will take him to school. Called the counselors, spoke my daughter who didn't go in the house. Let her know that Mom was ok. Called dyfs and let them know.
I'm in the ER waiting room now, they are pumping her stomach and bladder, otherwise she was sleeping and was ok.
Will keep ya posted.
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Hi Bob you are surely being tested at the moment. Hope life gets better for you soon. New moon this week, new beginnings may it bring you and the kids happiness. Luv Leo xx
You can't be responsible for everything, and did not know what she was thinking. You could not have know to go into the house first. I'm glad she was just sleeping and she is getting emergency care. You and the kids have had to deal with so much. Hopefully the will be the last straw and she will get the help she so much needs.
You and your whole family are in my thoughts and prayers.
I so hope they keep her, if nothing else for observation. If so, hang on for the ride. Every detox is different and hers will be whatever HP has in store. This just shows us how miserable our A's really are inside. We'll be here for you. Please keep us updated.
love you Christy
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(((Bob))) You have had so much to deal with this past week it truly isn't fair. As always, you have handled everything with a cool head and put your kids first. They are so lucky to have a father like you. I hope your wife feels better. My heart goes out to both of you.
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((((((((Bobump))))))))) None of this is your fault, you could not have known. You always have placed your chlidren first. OMGoodness -I have no idea what to say. Prayers and Wishes, tea
((((((((((((((Bob))))))))))))))) hugs to your daughter that found her, too. You are in my prayers.
You know I went thru a similiar thing as I began to tell you today... at 14 I found my mother between her dresser & her bed, saw 8 horse pills (they were huge) on the dresser. In my lack of experience, I would have called my aunt & her husband first - they were both police officers in New Orleans but I looked up in the PDR first to see what it was, once I found it, I did call them.
She was dead weight. They struggled to get her into a wheel chair & carry her out that way. At the ER, the doctor's told me if another hour went by it would have been too late. This was her second suicide attempt my step-dad (& present A husband) was out of town.
She took 12 Placidyls - the are prescribed for SEVERE insomniacs, 500/750 mgs, nat(urally) she had the 750's. Later she told me she just swalloed 2 at a time until she fell on the floor.
The night before she flogged me naked w/ a horse crop that she broke on me that night. Made me strip in front of her & lay face down on her bed, giving me welts from my neck to my heels.
Then made me sleep in her closet on the floor.
It was in the summertime & being on a National team for 2 yrs (for gymnastics) at the time, in the best shape pf my life I was riding a 12 mile round trip on my 12 speed, from the French Quarter to uptown to Tulane where I was taking a 6 week, 3 classes for "Advanced/Honor's kids." Funny right now the only course I can recall this moment was a business one.
Well I felt guilty not being able to go to class for a few days _ such a good lil dysfunctional codie! But I couldn't even walk, the welt between my leg & gluts burned like fire. No one availed themselves to put any salve on me, I didn't either.
My mom was angry that I managed to save her life & never thanked me for it, still to this day.
No note, nothing, just abandonnment over & over again. Well, I soon quit the team cut off all my hair & looked 18. Used to sneak out of the house ~ she really lost me at that point. I ran away four times over the next 3 yrs.
A year later when i was 15, I tried to kill myself too.
Hopefully, with what you've just gone thru w/ dyfs... she will be forced into treatement. Maybe this is a Blessing in disguise & it will save her life.
Like I said earlier to you my love ~ she will be sore internally & be angry at you & very guilty & sad.
No one want to murder themselves but change is just so scary for them, Thank God you guys found her, your family & A esp are in my prayers.
all of my love, -Kitty of Light
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I am so sorry about your wife. Please know I am keeping you and your family in my prayers. HP is in control and has wisdom beyond our understanding. Please hold on tight to that.
My heart really goes out to you bobump. All I can say is in my experience this same situation was a major turning point and neither my nor my husbands life has ever been the same again. For that I thank God for he was absolutely working through me at that time doing for me what I could not do for myself.
I read a lot of your posts and I am in awe. You handle situations that are far from easy and you do it with grace and love. My prayers are with you and your family.
It sounded like your wife had a very agitated depression for a long time so this does not suprize me. I hope that you are getting enough support for yourself. I can imagine this feels like another unbearable stress.
I also know it is a great strain for you to leave the children around her. I feel for you and your sanity and your energy and pray that you will get some support from somewhere.
