The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I was born like all of you in a pure, natural state, borned perfectly as God wanted me to be out of His vision for me and His love for me.
I was also born into an emotionally dishonest and dysfunctional family and society.
Although I cannot remember it, probably by the time I was 4, I had learned what to do in order to "fit in" and get my needs met.
I thought my parents were perfect and couldn't see they came from a place of fear and shame and had been wounded themselves. so when things went wrong I blamed myself. Children always think its their fault, of course it's not.
This dysfunction goes back many generations probably, and permeates every generation of our society and most families, and our society tells us what we "should" "be" to be "happy" and "successful", which are of course mostly lies. Even service and altruism are laced with dishonesty.
I will probably never be "successful" like my family and many others in the world, or even liked by a lot of people, but my relationship with myself can be good. Then my relationship with others can be better. I can view myself and others from a different perspective.
How wonderful it is to know there is a solution, and many others walk with me.
-- Edited by WorkingThroughIt on Friday 20th of March 2015 10:51:19 AM
If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
When we have a spiritual awakening we can see the truth about everything around us. We see the same things as others but we are on the other side of a thin veil.
I can remember the first time I went to see my extended family after my work. I could see and sense and feel the codependency so strongly, it was really hard to stay. I could see things that helped me understand my story so much better. I became highly attuned and sensitive spiritually. Also to wonderful things. The grass greener, the sky bluer, the animals sweeter, and myself an amazing child of God. I didn't know that.
