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YARNCRAZY


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AH CAME HOME FROM REHAB LAST NIGHT. OUR INSURANCE WOULDNT ALLOW MORE THAN 30 DAYS AND WE CANT AFFORD A FANCY PRIVATE REHAB. I FEEL KINDA STRANGE WHICH MY SPONSER SAID I WOULD. TRYING TO USE THE SKILLS/TOOLS I LEARN AT ALANON. I FEEL KINDA NUMB ABOUT HIM..MAYBE I JUST NEED SOME TIME TO SEE THAT HE IS DOING HIS INVENTORY,MEETINGS ETC. I GUESS I EXPECTED TO FEEL DIFFERT KNOWING HE WAS COMING HOME SOBER THEN WHEN HE WAS MASSIVELY USING. I FELT EMOTIONALLY NUMB THEN TOO.

PRAYING THAT MY HIGHER POWER IS LOOKING OUT FOR BOTH OF US



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I understand Alyce It is great that you have your alanon tools, so please remember the slogans, the serenity prayer and to keep the focus on yourself. I will join in your prayers Alyce

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I believe that HP is absolutely watching out. Praying and supporting you in this as well!.... hugs

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When my AH transferred home to out patient from inpatient Rehab I felt the same anxiety you are feeling. I think that's normal.

AH and I referred to him returning home as finding a NEW NORMAL.


I slept in the guest room for the first week he was home. After that I moved back to our room but we tend to sleep apart more now... one on the couch or in the spare room as needed.


We are more like roommates than spouses at this point.


he has been home now for over a month and we are surviving...

go to your meetings
use your tools
do your readings
slogans and prayers help.

anxiety to me seems NORMAL. it would be weird if you are totally calm and fine with him coming home.

I think every new experience now will bring anxiety. it does for me. the first night he went out to a meeting with out me and was late getting home...

the first time he took a long road trip without me.... anxious

i spent a lot of time going "not my circus not my monkeys" when i'm worried about him and i have no control

the serenity prayer is a god send.


hugs to you. you are NOT alone.

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Hugs to you yarncrazy. Try to keep the focus
On you not him. Do things you enjoy get out
More often. My thoughts are with you!

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hugs to you.
Yes, keep the focus on yourself. Do the things you like. Practice using your tools.

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If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
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