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Good morning everyone. I just need to rant my ah has been sober about 100 days. Up until 2 weeks ago I has set to leave him. I went crying to our therapist and mad as heck and told her that is it. He was grumpy and mean everyday and I just couldn't take it anymore. Amazingly she met with him the next day and he changed his negative and grumpy ways. Well until last night we got a package from the irs we r going to court because my ex claimed my daughter and no matter how much paperwork I give theses clowns they still will not give us the dependent exemption ( I have final say with my daughter, sole custody and he sees her maybe 35 days in a year but claimed her on his taxes but says he didn't ). That aside my ah flips out well my daughter had tutoring and he was going to take her but when he flipped out I said I would take her and then he started yelling at me saying I was a bully and taking her away from him( in front of my daughter). Now I am a mom and going to protect my daughter.. No Matter what he thinks- when he is mad he drives crazy and is just mean, why would I put her in that situation? I got home he went to the gym. After the gym he came upstairs told me he said sorry to my daughter and we both said we were ok. he went to the basement and I went to sleep. This morning I get a text from him saying he is up (even though normally He is never up) but not going to work today. I thought he would come have coffee with me (today is my birthday) nope. I got dressed, got my daughter dressed and we left. I called him on way to work no answer. Now I have to admit I am hurt. It's my birthday and again he has made it about him. every holiday he does this... He poops on everything, sucks the joy out of it and makes it about him. I'm determined to enjoy the day but I just had to get this off my chest do I can put it behind me. I am starting to hate him and I can tell I'm detaching because I am numb to so much but this hurt. He sucks me back in and stabs me again. When do we stop trusting? Why can they manipulate us over and over? I feel so tired by this. Thanks for listening.
Great idea to get this off your chest, and enjoy your day. I hope it is just lovely.
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If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
Thanks for the birthday wishes! I had a good day. Got home and he still didn't remember it was my birthday. He figured out when I got a package off the front porch and unwrapped it. Then he started the guilt thing and went up stairs. When I went up there he started saying how guilty he felt and that he was sorry. I told him today isn't about how he feels it is about me. Yes I was hurt and I just don't understand how I give him the benefit of the doubt with all that has happened but he accuses me if taking my daughter away. He could have put her bed, played a game with her instead of going to his room. He thought about and joined us the rest of the night. He even woke up this morning and had coffee with me and helped my daughter and I get out the door. So a small set but a good one.
