The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I came to Al-anon to figure out how to deal with my AH. Like all of us.
I fought it. the first time I went to one meeting and I hated it that was a couple of years ago. Life might have been different if I had done it right then and stuck around and shopped for meetings... but I didn't. I went I listened and I said "not for me" and I left.
I did not get it.
About 60 days ago I walked into a meeting and I said "I am here.. I don't get it but I' will try"
I kept trying.
different meetings.
READING.
THIS PLACE. this board.. the chat room
the love and support and acceptance.
I now sound like one of the "kool-aid" drinkers "try Al-anon" "KEEP AN OPEN MIND" Do the Readings... meeting shop....
fake it till you make it.
But it's WORKING..
he's still an idiot dry drunk
I still love him but his insanity is not dragging me down. and it seems to be helping him too... he's not as angry with me since I am not as angry with him...
just wanted to say thanks.
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-- ladybug
We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.
The way for us to change is to really listen and work on Ourselves. My lightbulb went on when i was working on self love self care and self acceptance. I felt my HP speak to me. I finally got it!
Hp is with me if I am willing and turning over my will to Him was also a huge relief. Stop trying to force solutions, living In self will state was not working or helpful. I could not make My ah do anything he did not want to do. I could only change me With the love of my HP.
-- Edited by Mirandac on Friday 13th of March 2015 07:46:54 AM
You probably didn't make it to the end of your first meeting, at least not mentally. That's the part where we say "keep an open mind". Plus,. as Betty said, we believe that "changed attitudes can aid recovery". The second meeting you opened your mind, and the miracles started.
I had similar experience. Didn't get my first couple of meetings, so didn't come back for a year. Then when I came back, had had a little education from my wife's inpatient center, and was ready to understand that maybe I had some part in it, that's when my mind opened up too.
Wonderful post, Ladybug! SO encouraging for me to read about the positive changes you are experiencing.
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Skorpi
If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
