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And this is what you get! Tonight we finished off the extended versions of the Lord of the Rings trilogy - we stop them when we want, watch till one of us wants to stop, continue the next day or so until we've once again finished the mass of hours with all the extras. during the scene where Frodo and Sam are awaiting their fate after accomplishing their mission, watching the eagles come - made me think of another movie with an extra large eagle - Lady in the Water, which in turn made me think of days past when I would hide money in that movie in case my daughter needed some, and tell her to take some money from the lady if it was needed. You see, the late and not so great Mr. X would never touch THAT movie because it was a stupid worthless chick flick, so I knew he'd never find it. He was really good at finding my stashes without seeming to hunt and then when he did, somehow magically the need would arise for almost exactly what I had stashed - imagine that? but he never found that stash!
I like having sole possession of my stash now, I like not having to hide money somewhere he wouldn't think to look, but I have to admit - I get a chuckle out of how easy it was to hide it from him because he was so stuck in his I'm the MAN who doesn't do frui-frui frame of thinking.
Hmm I haven't watched Lady in the Water in a long time, maybe I will soon!
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I am strong in the broken places. ~ Unknown
All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another! ~ Anatole France
I can relate to this, very much. I remember during a particluarly bad period i kept money, a phone and my car keys in my underwear. Bras take on new meaning. It sounds ridiculous and funny but its a bit sad isnt it? Very symbolic of life with insanity. Dont you think its amazing how normal insanity becomes?
El-cee I think back on some of it and shake my head, did I really DO that? yep, I did, I jumped on the merry-go-round and fought fights that no sane person would tolerate. I am more aware than ever of how precious my serenity is, how precious NOT playing those games is to me, how priceless this peace I live in has become and I look back and cannot believe that me, a sane smart person with a good head on her shoulders in every other walk of life, would allow such insanity to rule her life. Thank God I'm better now!
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I am strong in the broken places. ~ Unknown
All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another! ~ Anatole France
Me too, sometimes i think, if people knew the way i was living, i might have been locked up in an asylum. To live in the insanity and be part of it and then just turn on normal at work or in public. I think i should have taken up acting, i was pretty skilled at hiding it. I love the peace too like my heart. Sometimes i get scared that i could allow that and go there again someday and think its not that bad!!!!!
Haha... I was never good at acting so if insanity was in my home ... It follows to work. A safe environment is so important to me. I never really realized that until it was challenged.
Its very hard to participate in life, friendships, job etc when your home is a battlefield, living on edge and not knowing what drama will play out from one minute to the next. I thought it would just stop. Like magic. Lol. I thought, this isnt fair, im a good person, it will stop but it ran its course right to the end. Its painful to think about.
Dear LMH I realy do" like your heart" and appreciate your"fond" reflections on the past and joy in the present moment