hard to get into that morning routine when A husband is laying in bed hungover - Al-Anon Family Group

Barbara · ~*Service Worker*~

hard to get into that morning routine when A husband is laying in bed hungover

leo · ~*Service Worker*~

Barb,

Make as much noise as you want I don't think he would be worried about being quiet if it was you alseep in there. Luv Leo x

lin0606 · ~*Service Worker*~

I have had exactly this issue, and I agree with leo - go and do what you must. If the situation were reversed, you know that he would not even give it one thought.
If you really can't stand the thought of the upset this would cause, then take what you need out of the room before you go to bed at night - assume that you won't be able to get in, in the morning. This is actually what I do - my husband's sleeping late no longer has anything to do with hangovers, but with his work schedule.

gardengal · ~*Service Worker*~

I too can relate as I too used to "tip-toe" around while my A slept with a hangover. As the others said, you do what YOU need to do, and if there is some noise OH Well. Then I started to go about my business as needed, I did not make noise intentionally (maybe sometimes when I was real angry), but if I needed to vacuum , or do laundry etc or even mow the lawn which made noise, I did. This is what we do,,we seem to revolve around the A's schedule, and do everything in our power to not upset the A, but when mine slept til noon, I too had a life and needed to get done what needed to be done. Once again you do what is right for you.............gardengal

Lindy · Veteran Member

I agree with the others; don't tip toe around him. Flip the lights on, make noise and don't give it a second thought. I'm sure when he comes home drunk and you're trying to sleep, he doesn't give any thought to the noise he's making. I would be tempted to be really noisy, but that's my little way of getting even (I know, I know, not mature). Good luck and have a great weekend.

Lindy

Diva · ~*Service Worker*~

Tippy toe around the place for a hung over drunk???? I don't think so... Do what you want to do, and don't worry about the noise you make. Diva

Jeannie · ~*Service Worker*~

I agree with what the others say. Why should you tip toe around and be quiet because he is hung over?

I would go about my business, make as much noise and turn on as many lights as you need to.

If he was real hung over, I think I would have to vaccum and wash the curtains and let the wonderful sun into the room, before I left for work.

Love Jeannie

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